Do you judge?

So I just recently made a new old friend (we have known each other for a while but never really hung out until recently)
And we hung out a couple times and lets our daughters play and such and it was fun, whatever.
But Saturday we went shopping and her daughter pooped in her diaper (who's almost 3) and she didn't change it the whole time we were out, then she wasn't gonna change it when we got back to her house until I said something..Then her daughter had a perfectly fine toddler bed, but for some odd reason, someone gave her a twin mattress that the springs are literally popping out of it and she has to use blankets to cover up the springs and the mattress was all wet and piss smelling and her house was pretty dirty, but not horrible...
She's a really nice person and everything and I want to still be her friend, but how do you stop from judging other's parenting? Do you have any friends that their behavior really irks you?

Errr yes I would judge her, that is just nasty and neglectful to not change her daughters poop diaper. And to accept a wet piss smelly mattress that is springy and let her daughter sleep on it. Wtf.

I dont know what I'd do in that situation be honest.

That is sick. If she lets her child be in those conditions, I would most definitely judge her parenting.

How would she like to sit in her own smurf for a long period of time? Or sleep on a piss infested mattress? I'm sure she wouldn't.

That would gross me out so bad but I don't know what I'd say either.

I wouldn't be friends.

I had an old friend over and his wife, son and daughter. Everything seemed chill. Well, they invited us so we went. Grossest. House. Ever. Smurffy pull ups on the ground in the kids rooms, nasty poop crusted toilet. No clutter, but the carpets were disgusting, not just stained- but obviously not vacuumed either. We stayed outside the entire time, wouldn't allow the kids in the house. His wife got upset. And we haven't seen them since. I don't mind a mess. Filth and crappy parenting I can't look the other way.

Quoting ♫ boobook ♫:" I wouldn't be friends. I had an old friend over and his wife, son and daughter. Everything seemed chill. ... [snip!] ... His wife got upset. And we haven't seen them since. I don't mind a mess. Filth and crappy parenting I can't look the other way."

Ewww thats horrible. .

I forgot to answer the other questions bc I couldn't get over the nastiness she lets her child in.

I can accept that people are different. We were all raised differently, have different parenting styles, and different kids. What works for me won't necessarily work for everyone else. However, if it were to come down to my friends and neglect, abuse, etc, I couldn't turn the other cheek or bite my tongue. I wouldn't be able to sleep at night knowing I did nothing, and the poor kid is the one who suffers. Sometimes it takes a reality check to show someone the error of their ways.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Carla DiFiore:</b>" Ewww thats horrible. ."</blockquote>

It was horrible. I shudder thinking about it.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Always♥Faithful:</b>" I forgot to answer the other questions bc I couldn't get over the nastiness she lets her child in. ... [snip!] ... nothing, and the poor kid is the one who suffers. Sometimes it takes a reality check to show someone the error of their ways."</blockquote>


I agree with this.

Quoting Always♥Faithful:" I forgot to answer the other questions bc I couldn't get over the nastiness she lets her child in. ... [snip!] ... nothing, and the poor kid is the one who suffers. Sometimes it takes a reality check to show someone the error of their ways."

I agree with that.

I would report her   that is disgusting, that poor child.