Quoting The (super kinky) Master:" So I shouldn't have answered this thread because I'm not American?"
I hope you are trying
to be funny.
I said I am not sure it's a good topic for international discussion....since there is a great difference between how things are viewed legally from one country to the next so what *I* say as an American may not be what *I* would say if I lived elsewhere where living together has different legal ramifications. I am answering based on what it is like where *I* live - that doesn't apply universally to all people everywhere.
You are asking stuff like this:
"This is where I'm confused ... are we talking legality here or ceremonial?
SO and I have had a ceremony that for us is the same as a marriage ceremony, we had a commitment ceremony followed by one that is important to our lifestyle.
Nest year I'm planning a Norse hand tying ceremony, which is my religions version of a Christian wedding.
- - - would these things give me the right to call him my husband or not?"
And my point of it not making a good international topic is that I have no idea what it means as it seems like things are clearly different in Au than here when it comes to what that means legally for you.
Where I am from, if you haven't had a legally officiated wedding, you're not entitled to ANY of the privileges of marriage - as I already outlined them - so no inheritance rights, no ability to make medical decisions, not even the "right" to visit him in intensive care if he is unconscious & under orders to only see "next of kin".