I've dreaded this for soo long...

It's the fight between the inlaws on which place to go for holidays...ugh. In the past, if there wasa conflict, I would go to my parents and Chris would go to his family's. But now that we're engaged and pregnant it just seems more appropriate that we don't split up anymore. So what do you girls do? Do you split up the holidays with both families? Like, go to your parents for the 4th and go to his parents for Thanksgiving? I just don't know what to do. Any good solutions to this problem? I'm sure it's going to get worse once the baby is born because everybody's going to want to see the baby...any advice would be great!

first how far do you live from each set of parents. then go to one parents for one holiday then the others the next and then have both sets come to your place for a holiday (if they live close enough).

our families live relativley close to each other so we see each of them on every holiday. Like mine in the morning, his for dinner.

My husband family lives in another state so we to one Christmas there and one here. This year we are thinking of doing Thanksgiving there and switching it up a bit cause it is too cold there for Christmas. If they lived here I would just split them up, like Christmas Eve with one family and Christmas with the other.

When we lived by our parents we went to both on thanksgiving (2 dinners was hard but very tasty) and then for Christmas we did Christmas eve at his parents and Christmas Day at my parents.

Quoting Tyletta:“ first how far do you live from each set of parents. then go to one parents for one holiday then the others ... [snip!] ... for one holiday then the others the next and then have both sets come to your place for a holiday (if they live close enough).”

my parents live about 80 miles west of us and his parents live about 50miles west of us

Quoting MommyKati:“ It's the fight between the inlaws on which place to go for holidays...ugh. In the past, if there wasa ... [snip!] ... it's going to get worse once the baby is born because everybody's going to want to see the baby...any advice would be great!”

i almost WISH i had distance as an excuse not to see one or the other, haha. I know that sounds cruel but our families are getting sooooo annoying, now that Evan's been born. They get JEALOUS! It's even worse that my boyfriends mom lives about 4 blocks away and my mom, MAYBE lives 5 minutes away. So, there's no excuse to NOT see either of them. I appreciate their help and concern but since they're so close, we almost don't have a NORMAL 3 person household.. Someone is always showing up.

Quoting ash8188:“ our families live relativley close to each other so we see each of them on every holiday. Like mine in the morning, his for dinner.”

Thats an even better idea to just go to both if they live close enough to do it and you dont mind.

We live really close to both our parents. For holidays we spend time with both. We go with my parents first for about 2-3 hours and then go to his parents house.

We see both on all holidays  

Quoting Kory the Ninja's Mama:“ When we lived by our parents we went to both on thanksgiving (2 dinners was hard but very tasty) and then for Christmas we did Christmas eve at his parents and Christmas Day at my parents.”

see I wish it was like that!! They both used to live in the same town but his parents moved. It was so much easier because we could go to one place for lunch and one place for dinner.

I'm probably the luckiest person in the world when it comes to this! My mom and my mother in law are not only very good friends but they live beside each other! We all spend holidays together! I really did marry the "boy nextdoor"!

I've got my parents and Paul has his mom's family and then his Dad's family. ~ the best way to look at it is that you've got alot of people that love ya'll and be happy about it. sometimes you can't make it to everything. They will understand that you are splitting your time. With holidays like the 4th you may just be able to go to one family. With holidays like Thanksgiving/Christmas if they live close then you can split your time ~ if they live far away then you may have to switch who you visit each holiday.

OMG I know how you feel my inlaws seem to think they have more rights to us then my parents and demand to see us on every holiday even though WE LIVE NEXT DOOR. I got in a big figt with my MIL this past christmas.
If you ahve to travel to see them then your safest option is to do every other... unless a certin holiday is very sacred to one of the families then you may need to figure it out... just make sure it's even so you can tell them to suck it up basically...but nicer.  
If one is close by and the other far you may want to go to the far away ones on the major holidays most of the time and celebrate with the close by ones on a different day./.............
What DRIVES ME CRAZY is the way the relative think that the daye on the calender to so FREAK'n imporatnt... more important then actuualy seeing you and spending time with you or making your life hell or not... ggggggrrrrrrr I'm feel'n ya on this one

Quoting MommyKati:“ It's the fight between the inlaws on which place to go for holidays...ugh. In the past, if there wasa ... [snip!] ... it's going to get worse once the baby is born because everybody's going to want to see the baby...any advice would be great!”

You and your man have to decide and not let all the families drive you nuts. Mine and the in laws always want my girls at their house for every holiday but sometimes it's impossible! If we can do both in one day then we do. We try to most of the holidays and it works out. But if the weathers bad, or someone of our relatives who lives farther away is having dinner, then we skip it completely and on the next holiday we spend it with the family we skipped last time. You can't make everyone happy all the time. As long as youand the hubby are on the same page don't sweat it!