posted 17th Dec
We had triplets on Dec 14, 2012 - they were at pg week 27 day 3 when born so they are considered premies. Shasta & Odessa are 2lbs 9 oz and Valentina is 2lbs 8 oz, 14 inches. Shasta is also 14 inches long and Odessa is 13 inches long. Valentina had to have surgery on her esophogus hours after being born. I trust my doctor very much, she's one of my best friends, which I guess is sad, but I believe if you're going to have a professional in your life its a good idea to at least be on a first name/ last name basis with him/ her. She's a very kind woman. Also a Christian like I am, so that's a plus. Valentina came out of surgery well but she hasnt healed yet and that's got Hubby down. Odessa and Shasta are doing good Doc says considering their size. They are on lots of monitors and ventilators so its lots of wiring around my babies. I can understand my Hubby's depression feeling but I'm trying not to let it get me down. I want to stay happy. I want to believe my sisters and brother in laws when they tell me they are here for us. My parents and inlaws even came from thousands of miles away to take care of our house and emotional issues. His parents have to go back home in January but they have been very helpful. My mom says she's here til I send her away. Won't be doing that for long, probably. Besides trusting in Jesus and trusting our family, do you have any suggestions for my hubby? He tries to act happy around me but then my sisters or hubby's bro tells me he told them this and this and I'm like why isn't he talking to me about his depression? I don't like hearing it second hand. Prayers and suggestions welcomed.quote
posted 17th Dec
With all that is happening in your life, please, do not be surprised that your husband is depressed. He is probably a bit fearful, too. God has made him to be a provider and protector and right now, circumstances make him feel as if he is failing. HE IS NOT! Put on the Praise Music, Play the Bible on CD. Get him to speak to your Pastor. Hold him, love him, respect him.
First, pray for him/over him. Get everyone you know to pray for him. Look up all Scripture on fear and post it all over your home. Commit it to memory and speak it out loud.
Next, your husband needs to Sleep! If he needs meds for short period, so be it. Valerian and skullcap are good herbs. Calms Forte by Hyland's (Walmart). Melatonin.
Next, is diet. Your husband has to be eating a diet high in good fats...Grass-fed (dark yellow0 butter, Pastured eggs, olive oil (not for cooking), coconut oil (1 tsp-1 tbsp) 2X, daily. Organic, wild caught Salmon, Grass fed beef, If he has no shellfish allergies....Krill oil Supplements, daily. If he has shellfish allergies then, Salmon oil. Get him a good, Raw Vitamins and Probiotics. Garden of Life (Amazon.com) does a Great Living Multi and MegaFood.com does a fabulous MegaFlora.
Next, Sun. I am not for tanning beds, but in this case 10- 15 mins will really help. If you're in a sunny climate....get outside. Exercise! Walk 20-30 mins, daily. this would be great for you to do with him when you're able. Exercise will help him de-stress.
We have dealt w/PPD and depression in this home. God is faithful. Don't think it can be attacked on one level. Depression effects all areas of your life. So, you must ATTACK it on All Levels. Praying for healing and wholeness in your family!