Depressed

Uhhh! So I went threw my BFs phone when I saw a sketchy message that said text me if u can't sleep. He kept lying about it-- he's a horrible liar. So when he was asleep I went through his phone , so I use my phone and pretended to be him. Convo went like this...

Me: hey it's mark
Her: well hey there
Me: what we doin tonight?
Her: idk I was thinking about having a party If u wanna come
Me: you know it's been a while.. When's the last time we chilled?
Her: what do u mean? We watched project x the other night?
Me: oh ya I was smurfed up I had fun tho
Her: I wish u would have actually talked to me...
Me: well guess what this is his smurfn girlfriend
Her: why the smurf u trippin we've known each other since we were little kids....


So like my bf has apologized but he still doesn't wanna talk about it, I'm like so depressed I can't stop crying I don't wanna do anything. I've always had anxiety issues and now I know I'm really depressed everything makes me cry   I'm a work and still crying nothing is making me happy I want help

I am sorry mama   My BD was the same way!! I never pretended to be him but honestly, even if it is immature, I probably would of ended up doing that. I always read messages between him and other girls. It is heart breaking but if you take him back it will never change.

ETA: Ask him who she is and did he lie to you about where he was? Sorry I jumped to this but with my experience, it's usually not a good thing that he didn't even bring it up.

Yeah thats a smurfed up situation.

#1 throwing things is immature
#2 going through other peoples things is immature
#3 pretending to be someone else is immature
#4 he's hanging out with another woman, what else is there to talk about? What can he possibly say to you that will justify his actions? Obviously you're in an unhealthy and unhappy relationship. No carefully placed jumble of sweet and meaningless words that come out of his mouth to save his ass will change your situation and it's reality.

Well, I hope you actually leave him.

Well, what did he tell you he was doing the other night when he was actually with this chick? I mean if he said he was hanging out at a friends he may not have been lying but if he said he was working late, etc etc then that's a red flag.

Maybe she just is an old friend? Talk to him about it and find out who exactly she is. I have a rule when I'm in relationships, I won't get rid of my old guy friends but I won't make new ones either. If she's truly an old friend and only that, and he wasn't hiding where he's going it may be just that?

Quoting Alyssa's mommy [EBFT]:" Well, what did he tell you he was doing the other night when he was actually with this chick? I mean ... [snip!] ... make new ones either. If she's truly an old friend and only that, and he wasn't hiding where he's going it may be just that?"

This.

Honestly, it doesn't sound like that big of a deal. She even said she wishes he would have talked to her, which imo means nothing is going on between them.

I think you might be over reacting a little. She didn't say "let me suck your dick" or "I had fun the other night ;)" there was no implication really that they did anything.

That's an immature way to figure things out. Obviously they didn't even talk though so idk why it's a huge deal. He can be equally as upset with you as you are with him IMO.

Quoting Alyssa's mommy [EBFT]:" Well, what did he tell you he was doing the other night when he was actually with this chick? I mean ... [snip!] ... make new ones either. If she's truly an old friend and only that, and he wasn't hiding where he's going it may be just that?"

That's true.

Yea, I'd only be pissed if he outright lied about it.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Queen Bitch♥:</b>" I am sorry mama   My BD was the same way!! I never pretended to be him but honestly, even if it is immature, ... [snip!] ... where he was? Sorry I jumped to this but with my experience, it's usually not a good thing that he didn't even bring it up. "</blockquote>



I've been texting her all night. She says they have hung out twice within the past 5 months since she moved back here and that they have known each other since they were kids. She's actually nice ( might regret saying that) she said they played black ops ( his fav game) and watched project x( his fav movie) she also said she knew about me. But told me she came over to MY house!!! Wtf  

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ms.Eagles:</b>" This. Honestly, it doesn't sound like that big of a deal. She even said she wishes he would have talked to her, which imo means nothing is going on between them."</blockquote>




It is a big deal if ur telling me ur at our house asleep. And I had no clue of this.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Alyssa's mommy [EBFT]:</b>" Well, what did he tell you he was doing the other night when he was actually with this chick? I mean ... [snip!] ... make new ones either. If she's truly an old friend and only that, and he wasn't hiding where he's going it may be just that?"</blockquote>
Apparently they r old friends but he shouldn't just have her over and not tell me u know... I just feel lied to and hurt

<blockquote><b>Quoting Erica ☆★:</b>" That's an immature way to figure things out. Obviously they didn't even talk though so idk why it's a huge deal. He can be equally as upset with you as you are with him IMO. "</blockquote>

It might have been immature but he wasn't gonna tell me. So I came up with my own way. It worked. And I don't regret it I needed to know something

Quoting babymama0324:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Alyssa's mommy [EBFT]:</b>" Well, what did he tell you he was ... [snip!] ... Apparently they r old friends but he shouldn't just have her over and not tell me u know... I just feel lied to and hurt"

Okay, yes he should have told you but maybe he didn't see anything wrong with it so he didn't mention it? Men are dumb they don't always think about things.

Or the other option is that he purposely didn't tell you because he knew you'd be upset/angry and he just wanted to hang out with his friend.

Either way he obviously told her about you, so I highly doubt he was trying to cheat. BUT be prepared to have some serious trust issues between the two of you, I'm sure he's not too happy you did what you did even if you feel justified in doing so.