Relatives.

I have my c section monday morning, I was completely robbed of enjoying myself with Sebby because my relatives are extremely rude about visiting. They just show up, I even put up a no visiters sign & my grandparents said "oh im sure you didnt mean us" & they would just stay for hours...every single day. Even when the doctors were in asking all the embarassing smurf & checking my incision. I wasnt able to establish a good nursing relationship with my son because I was stressed about not being left alone. How do you deal? I didnt want anyone to know what time my surgery was & my freaking dad blabbed to everyone! so Im sure there will be people up at the hospital before I even arrive and its really stressing me out.

Tell your nurses that you do not want any visitors. They will enforce it. I had wonderful nurses that told me if I wasnt up for visitors to let them know and they wouldnt allow anyone in.

I moved 3000 miles away  

Tell the nurses you don't want visitors at a certain time. Or tell your relatives you want just family time and if they don't leave the nurses can get them to.

Pretty simple, tell them "yeah that means NO visitors, including you".

tell your nurses, I was worried about breastfeeding in front of people with my first so about every 2 hours my nurse would come in and kick everyone out. they also wouldn't allow people to come in when I was sleeping they were great

You should be able to tell your nurse, and they will not let anyone in....I had something very similar happen to me with my oldest....most of my husbands family walked in like 10 min after I had him (i had no clue they were even at the hospital, his cousin called and told everyone when I was in labor) I didn't even get a chance to hold my son before everyone else did...i was really upset....and my nurse noticed and she made everyone leave...with my next 2 we told the nurses we did not want anyone in the room until we said it was ok and we had no issues with it.

yeah just don't authorize them as visitors. we had a list when my grandpa was in the hospital, and if you weren't on it you didn't get in. also they set up a password so if someone called wanting to talk to him, they had to know his password lol.

and I understand wanting alone time. it is very important to establish the bonds and nursing relationship like you said. They are just excited. maybe you can send out an email telling them that your family (you, hubby kids) will want special alone time and will contact them as soon as they are able to visit... I don't know if that will help or not.