re: Wanting to have a baby at 18?

Quoting eMiLy_333:" Wasn't meaning I would drink when I'm pregnant or breastfeeding, I just thought everyone pointing that out should know. "

I didn't say you would - but in the end, getting pregnant at 18 won't change the fact that you won't be drinking at 18 OR 21 unless your are irresponsible.

Quoting Jane Lynn:" i had my little girl a month b/4 my 19th birthday and tbh i wouldnt change it for the world.. i'm about to have my 2nd child any day now.. some women are not cut out to be yound moms some are.."

I wouldn't change it for the world either. Doesn't mean that it isn't difficult or that it wouldn't have been easier later on in life.

I pointed out the drinking age is 18 here not 21 just to let people know so they stop pointing out partying, sheesh. I don't party anyways I never have I'm not into it. You're all trying to educate me (rude or not), so I didn't see the big deal in educating people on the drinking age. Wasn't saying I'm going to get pregnant, drink the whole time, then drink while breastfeeding.

Quoting eMiLy_333:" I pointed out the drinking age is 18 here not 21 just to let people know so they stop pointing out partying, ... [snip!] ... people on the drinking age. Wasn't saying I'm going to get pregnant, drink the whole time, then drink while breastfeeding. "

live with this dude first.

without a roommate.

Quoting eMiLy_333:" I pointed out the drinking age is 18 here not 21 just to let people know so they stop pointing out partying, ... [snip!] ... people on the drinking age. Wasn't saying I'm going to get pregnant, drink the whole time, then drink while breastfeeding. "

I never partied, either - and I still missed out and life was 100 times harder for me than it could have been. Not saying don't love my son, I do and I am glad I had him - but there is no way purposely having a child at 18 is responsible. You don't have a way to support the child properly, especially if you need someone to live with you to pay rent. Have you ever even lived with a room mate? BAD IDEA if you are in a relationship. I have done it a few times, it's never a good thing for a relationship.

Quoting eMiLy_333:" I pointed out the drinking age is 18 here not 21 just to let people know so they stop pointing out partying, ... [snip!] ... people on the drinking age. Wasn't saying I'm going to get pregnant, drink the whole time, then drink while breastfeeding. "

I didn't like partying when I was 17. Even after I turned 18 I didn't like it. Then I went to college and had some friends who did and we went out and had fun. Honestly, life changes. You become into things you didn't think you'd like. That's what life experiences do.

Quoting £egendary £ex:" live with this dude first. without a roommate."

i agree.. it would be better that.. for one trying to start a family with a room mate can be hard.. it would be better that it just you and him b/c you really dont get to know someone till you live together.. and being pregnant and having to do everything sucks meaning if the room mate was gonna be a guy b/c guys dont really clean up after them self... my b/f brother is 38 and he lives with us and i feel like i'm taking care of a 16 year old

Quoting Noneya Business:" I didn't like partying when I was 17. Even after I turned 18 I didn't like it. Then I went to college ... [snip!] ... out and had fun. Honestly, life changes. You become into things you didn't think you'd like. That's what life experiences do."

 

People change. And you'll really find yourself in a few years.

Quoting Δ ☮ ∂:"   People change. And you'll really find yourself in a few years. "

I used to think sitting around, watching football and having a few beers was pretty boring. Then I met my ex and that's what they did. It was actually really fun. No one got crazy. We just relaxed, joked around and talked. I miss it like crazy, but that's because we're not together. But still, I can't do that as much as any of them could.

Quoting Jane Lynn:" i agree.. it would be better that.. for one trying to start a family with a room mate can be hard.. ... [snip!] ... really clean up after them self... my b/f brother is 38 and he lives with us and i feel like i'm taking care of a 16 year old"

oh man, I'd be pissed

Honestly emily, its a lot easier to establish yourself financially when you dont have a child, unless you are loaded. And no matter what age you are when you have your first child or how prepared you think you are or even how much your willing to give up on, having a child is a mind blowing experience. Like others have mentioned, along with my other post too, i would suggest living with your boyfriend for a while before trying to conceive.

Quoting £egendary £ex:" oh man, I'd be pissed"

trust and believe i am i'm like my 3 year old knows how to put her dishes in the sink.. and throw away her trash nd put up her stuff and why cant you..

Your brain isn't even fully developed until you are 25. People change a lot between 18 & 25. A baby will change your relationship like you wouldn't believe. Look at the teen mom shows, none of them are with their kids dad still...why? Because they are young and had a baby, and it ruined their relationship. Then if you don't have enough money to support the baby there is another stress on you. The divorce rate is way higher for young parents, even though your not married you are not likely going to be together for ever. It's just reality.
I had my first baby at 21 and my second at 25. I'm not super young but I still feel like I'm missing out on things. It's little things you don't even think about. For instance its harder to have alone time with your SO when you have a baby screamingand needs your attention constantly. That alone can ruin a relationship. I wanted to go on a real honeymoon, a nice cruise with my DH and still haven't after being married 4 years and probably won't be able to for a long time. If you do have a baby and decide to go to college you have to get daycare or a babysitter, which is so expensive. It's hard to get through college while having to fork out money for a sitter. You don't get to go out with friends whenever you want not even to a movie, you can't just go on a date whenever you want with your SO. It won't be quiet anymore for you to watch your favorite tv show, kiss that goodbye too. You can try but you won't be able to hear it. No sleep for atleast 18 years. Constant worrying about your child. I worry more than I ever imagined, its a very hard job!

Quoting eMiLy_333:" I pointed out the drinking age is 18 here not 21 just to let people know so they stop pointing out partying, ... [snip!] ... people on the drinking age. Wasn't saying I'm going to get pregnant, drink the whole time, then drink while breastfeeding. "

You live in British Columbia, Canada?
If so... then the drinking age is not 18, it's 19.

I had my first at 20 and my second at 24, now at 26 I'm expecting my third. I'm still with my children's father and we are now married and doing well financially, and even I still feel overwhelmed sometimes and really wish I could have some time to myself. I wish I was having my first right now sometimes, I only now really feel ready to be parenting and it's been a long hard road for us to be able to support ourselves and our family independently. And having to depend on other people to support your own child really smurfing sucks. ESPECIALLY not a roommate. And it would be just planets inconsiderate and selfish for the two of you to plan to have a child while living with another person and not having them involved in the decision, you know, because thy will have to adjust their lifestyle to accommodate and pregnant person and then a newborn. Sorry but if you and he aren't goig to be the only two people responsible for every expense and responsibility of a child then you two don't get to be the only ones involved in the choice to make one.
And i have grown and changed so much since i was 18, my political, religious, and personal views and standards are incomparable to the ones I had as an 18-year-old or even as a 20 year old. Trust me, you and upur boyfriend NEED the next few years of young adulthood to discover yourselves as individuals, get eduacted and gainfully employed, and to really see how you work as an independent adult couple living on your own. Every teenager who tries to have a baby thinks they will different than everyone else, it very rarely actually works out that way.
Doctor's bills, daycare, formula (if you can't breastfeed), furniture, clothes, medicine, and a long list of other things are expensive necessities for a baby. Please rethink this and make a better choice on behalf your future child. Just wait. You have so much time, why rush into bringing a baby into a wildly less than ideal situation.