re: Wanting to have a baby at 18?

Quoting ECT:" This just makes me think that this is a fake profile. Typical first post and living in a random other country."

Canada isn't really a random country :-/ The city I live in is wrong yes, but I do live in Canada.

yeah... no.

Quoting IDID-VBAC 12/09:" Go to college and have a life before baby. I had #1 at 18 (15 days before I turned 19) and although ... [snip!] ... baby and a family (I did) but in reality it is too young, there is too much of your teenage and early 20s life to miss out on. "

Not necessarily. I know you're just trying to change her mind, but there isn't anything that I have "missed out on" by being a young parent.

<blockquote><b>Quoting £egendary £ex:</b>" So have you not actually lived with this guy yet? I would live together for at least a year before trying ... [snip!] ... trying to have a baby. Also, how old is this guy? Is he really that financially stable? I'd wait a few years if I was you."</blockquote>




  this.
You don't know how strong you two are until you've lived together.

Quoting Mj's Crazy Mama♥:" Not necessarily. I know you're just trying to change her mind, but there isn't anything that I have "missed out on" by being a young parent."

Okay, and most people would say otherwise.

I would seriously wait. Its so much harder to go to college when you have a baby. And you are young still, you have so many things you could do. Having a baby makes many things alot harder to do. Kiss vacations or anything for yourself goodbye because that baby comes first, and all your money will go to the baby. Having no degree, it will be even harder to support a baby.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mj's Crazy Mama♥:</b>" Not necessarily. I know you're just trying to change her mind, but there isn't anything that I have "missed out on" by being a young parent."</blockquote>




I could name hundreds!

I would seriously wait - I mean, do you REALLY want to ruin your boobs before your even able to flash them at a titty bar? Come on now.....  

Quoting £egendary £ex:" Okay, and most people would say otherwise."

Okay, well with the exception of ONE friend I have IRL, none of my young parent friend would say otherwise.

Quoting Mj's Crazy Mama♥:" Not necessarily. I know you're just trying to change her mind, but there isn't anything that I have "missed out on" by being a young parent."

I personally did not either, but for some yes they do miss out on things. I am not very social and do not party but for an example my sister has tons of friends and goes out every chance she gets and in that case she would have missed out on something. What about traveling? What about having a career that you can earn a living with? What about living on your own and having your own space? What about learning about yourself?

I know it is dependent on each person and not a statement that is true for everyone. (Like you and I). I am perfectly content with my life but school would have been much easier before kids-especially if I go for my doctorate and I would have loved to do more traveling before baby.

<blockquote><b>Quoting IDID-VBAC 12/09:</b>" I personally did not either, but for some yes they do miss out on things. I am not very social and do ... [snip!] ... I am perfectly content with my life but school would have been much easier before kids-especially if I go for my doctorate. "</blockquote>




It's not even partying though.
I could have gone through college without the extra stress, I would be at university now actually. I could and would have gone travelling. My partner and I could have enjoyed more time as a care free couple, going out on drives, skinny dipping etc. we won't get that for 16 years +

Also, I also want to tell you how hard it is to go to college and support a baby.

I was 19, a single mom, I worked full time and I was in college full time and it was hard as smurfing HELL. Yeah, I was single, but there is a HUGE chance at this point that your boyfriend won't be sticking around. Yeah, you TRIED for a baby, but he can't be much older than you, babies change relationships, are a ton of responsibility and are very stressful - the chance of a relationship working out with a baby that young is very small. So you better be prepared to do it on your own. It was only thanks to my mother and my brother that I was able to keep going. My son is now 4, I am not single and I STILL struggle. Why the hell woudl you purposely put yourself in that situation?

Quoting Mj's Crazy Mama♥:" Not necessarily. I know you're just trying to change her mind, but there isn't anything that I have "missed out on" by being a young parent."

i am a young parent. with a 2 year old and another on the way. like i said. i was in a complete stable relationship. lived together for 3 years, and decided on TTC for a baby when we were both bringing in $1800 per pay period.. we could afford it. i had everything. then one day he broke up with me. because he wasnt happy anymore. turned into a douche. ive contemplated abortion, met with a couple of adoptive families. everything. and not to mention, being single and just turning 21 while being 6months pregnant sucks. if i was not pregnant i could have gone out and enjoyed my night maybe started meeting new people.

i cant travel, i have to ask my kids grandmother if she wants to watch them if i even want to go to disney land for the first time ever, (both girls would be too young for me to be able to enjoy anything) im glad you havent missed out on anything but even though i LOVE my girls, and my first was an oopsie, this one was a TTC baby, and now that im single and have to stay home ALL the time to parent, i realize how much i HAVE missed out while i look at my childless friends facebook pics, and realize how much fun theyre having in college. ive missed out on a smurf ton. and even though i do not regret my kids, i am still a little resentful on how soon my first came, and resentful of this second baby almost completely. (YES I STILL LOVE HER, IM JUST NOT HAPPY WITH WHAT HAS COME WITH THIS PREGNANCY)

Quoting Sofia's Mummy♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting IDID-VBAC 12/09:</b>" I personally did not either, but for ... [snip!] ... I could have enjoyed more time as a care free couple, going out on drives, skinny dipping etc. we won't get that for 16 years +"

This is what I feel like I missed out on, too. As it stands, we will both be going through graduate school with 5 kids.