Help dealing with CPS!!!

Ok so my daughter is 3 months and not last Thursday but the Thursday before that my BD and his friend got arrested and went to jail. Well after I got home our roommate said that cause I was upset that she would stay up all night with me well later that night his friend got released and called me so I could pick him up so I did I left my daughter with BD's mom cause it was almost midnight when he called and I wasn't going to bring her out that late at night. His friend didn't have a place to stay for the night so I said he could stay with me only for that night cause the roommate was gonna be in there with us. We got back to the house and I went and got my daughter from BD''s mom I changed her into a sleeper but she was pretty fussy when I moved her right arm but she was still moving the lower part and grabbing onto my shirt so I just thought it was because she was in a newborn onesie all day (she's in-between Newborn and 0-3 months even though she weighs 10 pounds) so it's REALLY hard to find stuff that fits her 100% right so I thought maybe the onesie was maybe a little to tight on her arm so I threw it away and put her to sleep. The roommate, his friend and I all stayed up till about 6 am then they both went to sleep. Well at 7 am my daughter woke up and she wanted a bottle, a diaper change and so at that time I also changed her into a onesie and she was still fussy about her arm but I just thought it was because of the onesie so I thought it was nothing also BD's mom said that nothing was wrong so I just blew it off. She was still fussy about her arm and that night BD got released for jail and he also looked at her arm and said nothing was wrong. She was still fussy with her arm all weekend but she had a DR's appointment Monday to get 1 shot so I was just gonna bring it up to her DR. Well Monday we took her to her DR appointment and I asked her DR about it so he sent us to get xrays done. At the hospital they told us that her arm was broken at the upper middle part and that it had been for a week because it was already starting to heal (she had been acting normal before Thursday.) So we went back to her DR and we got an appointment Wed to see if she needed a cast or not (she ended up not needing one) but they also said that they would have to contact CPS but I know that's the law. Last Friday CPS came out and took my daughter and placed her with one of BD's friends because 1) her arm 2) where we lived 3) BD doesn't have a job. So now BD and I are trying to get a better place to live and were both trying to get jobs. I have no idea how her arm got broken because i'm in school from 7 am till 3 pm Monday-Friday and while i'm at school BD watches her. CPS thinks that I broke her arm because she only started being fussy about her arm after I changed her but I would NEVER do anything like that!!! Anyone who knows me and that has seen me with my daughter can tell you that. I love my daughter more than anything; she's everything to me. BD and I are thinking that because the hospital said it happened a week ago that her babysitter might have done it or her son (I think he's 2,3 or 4 something like that) either her, BD's mom or our roommate but that's my best guess. I know how it sounds but it's the truth and now all I want to do is get a better place to live, get jobs and do everything we can to get our daughter back.

Sorry I Know It Was Long!!! Please I really need advise!!!

Just do everything that they tell you to do.

Any idea how the babies arm got broke?????

All i can say is comply with whatever CPS tells you to do. Whats wrong with where you live?

I feel like there is a lot more to this situation because there is information that's unnecessary in here, and there's information that's not adding up.

I'm not sure what your baby daddy being in jail and being released, and your baby staying with your baby daddy's mom while you picked him up, had to do with anything. And I'm not sure what your baby daddy and his criminals friend's bed times have to do with anything.

The doctor doesn't have to call CPS every time a child is hurt, because sometimes accidents happen. They do have to call if they suspect abuse though.

CPS doesn't take babies because they don't suspect abuse, because the house is livable, and because people don't have jobs.

1. I would either admit what happened and address a solutions to how it will not happen again, or figure out what happened if you honestly don't know, and address solutions to make sure it never happens again.

2. Figure out what's making your house a risk in the eyes of CPS. Make sure it's clean, a good home for a child to grow up in, safe, etc.

3. CPS doesn't care whether or not you have a job or whether or not your baby daddy has a job. CPS cares that your child is safe, healthy, and fed. So I would stop blaming him not having a job on why your daughter was taken.

I think that you may be distancing yourself from the reality of this situation in an effort to make it less emotionally hard for you, but this is a big deal and something that needs to be taken extremely seriously. Somehow someone or something BROKE a bone in your daughter's body. Get pissed, find out why, and start making changes to your life.

Quoting melissa_83:" Any idea how the babies arm got broke?????"

No everything that happened I put in the post

Quoting Layla's Momma ♥:" Just do everything that they tell you to do."

 

Usually doctors call CPS when theres spiral fracture to a babies limbs because that means someone had to twist the limb it wuldnt just break from falling off something. I would see where her doc would be concerned because babies sbones are so soft and flexible it takes alot of force to break them. Is it possible your BD or his friend did something to her.

Quoting Red Bottom:" I feel like there is a lot more to this situation because there is information that's unnecessary in ... [snip!] ... someone or something BROKE a bone in your daughter's body. Get pissed, find out why, and start making changes to your life. "

I put everything that happened since Thursday because I'm trying to figure out how her arm got broken. That's what CPS said about why they were taking my daughter so idk but we are trying to find a better place to live because it wasn't suitable for us to even live there much less our daughter but it was either that or be homeless at the time. I do everything I can to make sure my daughter has everything she needs and is taken care of. I know some things don't add up but it's the truth and that's all I have to go on.

Quoting melissa_83:" Usually doctors call CPS when theres spiral fracture to a babies limbs because that means someone had ... [snip!] ... are so soft and flexible it takes alot of force to break them. Is it possible your BD or his friend did something to her."

There is no way my BD did this to our daughter. were doing everything CPS asks of BD and I so we can get our daughter back. The only people I can think of are BD's mom, The Babysitter or our roommate.

Quoting Red Bottom:" I feel like there is a lot more to this situation because there is information that's unnecessary in ... [snip!] ... someone or something BROKE a bone in your daughter's body. Get pissed, find out why, and start making changes to your life. "

Maybe the laws are different in Texas... IDK.

Quoting Sarah's Mommy:" There is no way my BD did this to our daughter. were doing everything CPS asks of BD and I so we can ... [snip!] ... asks of BD and I so we can get our daughter back. The only people I can think of are BD's mom, The Babysitter or our roommate."

So 3 different people have watched her in he week prior to this happening???? Maybe im just very overprotective but my kids have only one person caring for them and its a family member. When you have many people watching your kids its just more people t opoint fingers at when someting goes wrong. I hope you find out who did it

Quoting Red Bottom:" I feel like there is a lot more to this situation because there is information that's unnecessary in ... [snip!] ... someone or something BROKE a bone in your daughter's body. Get pissed, find out why, and start making changes to your life. "

I agree 100%.

Quoting Sarah's Mommy:" I put everything that happened since Thursday because I'm trying to figure out how her arm got broken. ... [snip!] ... everything she needs and is taken care of. I know some things don't add up but it's the truth and that's all I have to go on."

There are always other options to being homeless, like living with whoever they placed your daughter with. Living with a family member, going to a shelter, applying for government assistance. Putting your daughter in a home that you know is unsuitable, around someone who broke her arm, and around people who are going to jail....isn't what's best for your daughter. You may want to address the PEOPLE you've been letting your daughter be around. Generally people are extremely upset when someone they love goes to jail, but you seemed to have no emotional reaction to that, just like it was any other day.

Quoting melissa_83:" So 3 different people have watched her in he week prior to this happening???? Maybe im just very overprotective ... [snip!] ... people watching your kids its just more people t opoint fingers at when someting goes wrong. I hope you find out who did it"

no those are the people that she's been around she only had 1 babysitter besides Thursday night when BD's mom watched her while I went to pick up his friend