re: Help dealing with CPS!!!

Quoting Raptor Jesus:" First of all, Red, you are a welcome addition to this place. If I didn't know any better I would think ... [snip!] ... the tools they need to succeed. There are plenty of organizations like this out there. Try and get in touch with one. So sad."

Thank you my dear.

I find it frustrating because it started with.

1. Infant with broken arm.

Then went to

2. Baby daddy is awesome, him and his friend hang out until 7am, he doesn't work, we pick his friend up in the middle of the night from jail and wherever else and take the baby to a sitter when we do.

Then with the

3. Baby daddy would never hurt me.

Then you look at her past posts and it's

4. I'm in fear of for myself and my daughter, baby daddy is abusive.

Then

5. My house is gross and we don't have jobs and my baby is with someone who is safe for her.

Yet she doesn't seem to have a flame under her ass to get her smurf together in the slightest.

Do you know how many thugged out homies I see WALKING to work? They have jobs. It's not hard. It's a cop out to act like you can't get an interview anywhere.

At least her daughter is out of this mess.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ellie.:</b>"   When I was looking for a job after I did a state to state move... I hit that smurf hard. It was ... [snip!] ... term, but you're young and have plenty of time for that. Get your priorities straight and then worry about the other stuff."</blockquote>




I do agree school needs to go on the back burner, finding a job and op getting herself into a position where op is safe and happy with her is.
Education can wait, I've just gone back to study and I'm old as smurf.
But... I could go out tomorrow and get a job no problem too, but perhaps op isn't presenting well regarding employment. Perhaps that's something we could help her with, preparing a cv, interview techniques etc?

Where are your parents op?

Quoting THE KATIE PRICE:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Ellie.:</b>"   When I was looking for a job after I did ... [snip!] ... Perhaps that's something we could help her with, preparing a cv, interview techniques etc? Where are your parents op?"

That's a good point. OP, how is your resume and interviewing skills? Are you wearing appropriate clothes? Presenting yourself professionally? Even if the job is just at dollar tree of mcdonalds, you still want to be presenting yourself in a very professional manner.

I can't put school on the back burner because 1. CPS said that I have ti stay in school 2. You can't get a job without graduating from High School or getting your GED 3. I get SSI because my mom had a stroke a few years ago and I'm in school 4. I can't dropout and try to get my GED because it cost almost $150 and all the money that I Do get goes to pay my car note, insurance, bills and whatever my daughter need ex. Clothes, diapers, baby food exc. I do get WIC and food stamps but its not enough. I've been working my ass off trying to get a job even before I found out I was pregnant. I had a job working at a snocone place while I was pregnant in the middle of summer. I Love working and having a job. I got a job interview at payless when I was 8 months pregnant but they didn't hire ne because I was so far along. my friend is one of the managers at dollar general and I might have a job there and I have to go up to flying j today and talk to the hiring manager. so hopefully I get a job SOON!!! Just stop with the bashing because I'm working my ass off trying to get my daughter back and make sure nothing like this EVER happens again. I come on here fir support not to get told I'm lazy and not trying to get my daughter back. I don't post every little thing that I Do on here but I come here so that I can get advice so that I can get my daughter back as soon as possible. and no I don't have nice clothes to try to get s job and I also don't have any money to spend on myself. But I borrow some of my friends clothes so that I can look nice to try to get a job. I'm doing the best I cab with what little I have.

I didn't even read through all the excuses but I will say you absolutely do not have to have a diploma to get a job. Most people worked their first jobs before graduating. My first job was at the South Carolina Aquarium as a tour guide and the pay sucked but it was enough to have some money to my name for the first time in my life. My husband started working at 15 at Burger King and stayed there until he went into college. I could go on and on with all of the people I know who get jobs without having a diploma.

I've never heard of CPS telling a parent they have to go to school either. I'm not calling you a liar or anything, I've just never heard of that...

<blockquote><b>Quoting Raptor Jesus:</b>" I didn't even read through all the excuses but I will say you absolutely do not have to have a diploma ... [snip!] ... CPS telling a parent they have to go to school either. I'm not calling you a liar or anything, I've just never heard of that..."</blockquote>




Im not saying you can't get a job while in high school I'm saying you can't try to get an actual career without s high school diploma. or GED. that's what my CPS person said so I'm going by what he says. I'm trying to be able to graduate so I can go to college so I can get a career so I won't have to worry so much. and so I have a stable income so that I can give my daughter everything she wants and more.

Quoting Sarah's Mommy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Raptor Jesus:</b>" I didn't even read through all the excuses ... [snip!] ... so I won't have to worry so much. and so I have a stable income so that I can give my daughter everything she wants and more."

What we're saying is...you dont need a college career right now. You need a basic job to meet basic needs, then worry about a career. Many parents on here do not have college educations and careers, and we can meet our children's needs,

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ellie.:</b>" What we're saying is...you dont need a college career right now. You need a basic job to meet basic ... [snip!] ... worry about a career. Many parents on here do not have college educations and careers, and we can meet our children's needs,"</blockquote>


I know that right now I just need a basic job but I'm also planning for be future so that when my daughter is 5 or 6 I can have a career and have our live straight and be able to give her the amazing life that she deserves. I'm not saying that you have to have a career to be able to support your child but it would help especially since I'm most likely going to be a single mom. and if I'm just working at McDonalds or whatever I'm not going to be able to give my daughter the life I want to.

Quoting Sarah's Mommy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Ellie.:</b>" What we're saying is...you dont need a college ... [snip!] ... a single mom. and if I'm just working at McDonalds or whatever I'm not going to be able to give my daughter the life I want to."

This is true... but.... if you're going to go to college, try to take online courses. Because if you're more concerned about going to a regular school right now, it's going to limit what jobs you can have because of hours. If you cant find a job because you're picky about your hours, you wont get your daughter back NOW, which is what you really need to focus on.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ellie.:</b>" This is true... but.... if you're going to go to college, try to take online courses. Because if you're ... [snip!] ... a job because you're picky about your hours, you wont get your daughter back NOW, which is what you really need to focus on."</blockquote>




I'm not talking about going to college right now I'm going to go after I finish high school. and I have to finish high school because that's what my cps caseworker said I have to. Be cps caseworker also called me a few mins ago and I asked him about me getting a job and staying in school and he said that I'm not required to get a job but bd is and we also have to get our own place but because bd and I arnt together that's why I want a job. I'm thinking of just acting like were together so we can get our daughter back but idk

Quoting Sarah's Mommy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Ellie.:</b>" This is true... but.... if you're going to go ... [snip!] ... I arnt together that's why I want a job. I'm thinking of just acting like were together so we can get our daughter back but idk"

NO! Do not lie to CPS, and if you think that BD had something to do with abusing your child, then do not get back together with him or live with him. IMO, if you have any doubts, you need to steer clear from him and worry about taking care of yourself.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ellie.:</b>" NO! Do not lie to CPS, and if you think that BD had something to do with abusing your child, then do ... [snip!] ... him or live with him. IMO, if you have any doubts, you need to steer clear from him and worry about taking care of yourself."</blockquote>




Ok but I don't THINK he did anything but I'm not sure of anything anymore. the only thing I'm sure of is I'm going to do WHATEVER it takes to get my daughter back. I am thinking about my daughter and me that's why I'm trying to get a job and find a pla.ce that's cheap enough

Quoting Sarah's Mommy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Ellie.:</b>" NO! Do not lie to CPS, and if you think that BD ... [snip!] ... daughter back. I am thinking about my daughter and me that's why I'm trying to get a job and find a pla.ce that's cheap enough"

Yet... he's hit you multiple times and you're scared of him and your LO ended up with a broken limb... and he goes to jail and hangs out with shady people? I would NOT continue that relationship. THAT IS NOT DOING WHAT IS BEST FOR YOUR CHILD.

Honestly, I'm frustrated with you. I understand you are here for "support"... but you're not listening to ANYTHING anyone has to say. You're defensive and have excuses for everything. Swallow down a big piece of humble pie, and LISTEN to the people trying to HELP you.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sarah's Mommy:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Ellie.:</b>" What we're saying is...you dont need a college ... [snip!] ... a single mom. and if I'm just working at McDonalds or whatever I'm not going to be able to give my daughter the life I want to."</blockquote>




Well right now someone else has your daughter. So unless you change THAT, your planning is worthless. I worked in high school and had a child. It's not unheard of. And stop making excuses like "I wasn't hired because I was too far along". That's illegal. Figure out why no one wants to hire you & change that.

You say that your money is going towards bills, insurance, your car, and your child. You live in someone else's unfit home (not expensive) with no running water (not expensive) and your car is old with no heat (not expensive) you do not have your daughter so your money is not going to her now.

Use the money that would be going to her & get your GED. Stop making excuses about government aid and whatever else you want to complain about.

People have stopped feeling sorry for you because there's an injured infant and a mother who has yet to change any aspect of her life.