re: i dont know where to post this

Quoting Mayhem.:" Is she your fiance, Or your wife?"

my fiance i call her my wifey we were supposed to get married in november but then we found out we were having a baby and cant afford it

I breast fed all my kids and other people fed them as well. Thats the purpose of the breast pump. Trust me babies take up lots of time and mom will be more then willing to except help  

Quoting Tiffany Knickerbocker:" I breast fed all my kids and other people fed them as well. Thats the purpose of the breast pump. Trust me babies take up lots of time and mom will be more then willing to except help  "

i hope so when can she find out what she is having she told me today her uterus is the size of a grapefruit like i know what that means

<blockquote><b>Quoting Richard and samantha:</b>" im just so scared i will hurt the baby bc they are so small and i am much bigger plus she wants to breast feed i want to be able to feed the baby to but now i cant"</blockquote>




She bought the breast pump. She can pump out milk and put it in a bottle and you can feed the baby. Babies are fairly durable. It takes a little while to get ahang of holding a baby but I'm sure once you see your babies face all your doubt and worry will fade away and all you will feel is love.

Quoting Nathaniel'sMom:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Richard and samantha:</b>" im just so scared i will hurt the ... [snip!] ... a baby but I'm sure once you see your babies face all your doubt and worry will fade away and all you will feel is love."

she told me something about the few weeks that the baby has to be breast fed or else if it has a baby it wont eat anymore other than the bottle she said it gets confused

You can find out the sex of the baby around 20 weeks is what my OB recommends. You can find out as early as 16 weeks but they make you wait i think due to sometimes due dates are off.

I think you both need to read the book what to expect when your expecting and what to expect the first year. It has a lot of great info for both of you

Quoting Blythe.:" I think you both need to read the book what to expect when your expecting and what to expect the first year. It has a lot of great info for both of you"

where can i buy it

Any book store will carry the book.

Quoting Richard and samantha:" she told me something about the few weeks that the baby has to be breast fed or else if it has a baby it wont eat anymore other than the bottle she said it gets confused"

Baby shouldn't have a bottle for at least 6 weeks, but seriously it's not your job to feed the baby and there are plenty of other ways for dad to bond with baby other than feeding. Baby needs mom to breastfeed them, and mom and baby need you to support her. Do a little research on breastfeeding and you will discover that it's not just nutritional benefits it's also emotional ones. Daddy feeding them from a bottle doesn't give them those important emotional benefits.
You can help best by changing the baby, helping put them to sleep, and playing with them while your fiance gets a shower or eats something.

yes i would recommend that book its much easier than asking on here lol

Quoting Richard and samantha:" im just so scared i will hurt the baby bc they are so small and i am much bigger plus she wants to breast feed i want to be able to feed the baby to but now i cant"

if she has a pump she can pump you a bottle and you can help feed too, that way momma can get rest, my SO would feed my LO 1-2 a night and just let me rest