Quoting They call me mama.:" If you kick her out she will resent your 5 year old even more. She will think your choosing the 5 year ... [snip!] ... behind your back. I would have a heart to heart with your older child, sounds like there are some underlying issues. Good luck."

I took the tv, the laptop, the ipod, etc, etc. already. Didn't change much.

<blockquote><b>Quoting HisDiva3:</b>" I have three teens, ages 18, 17, and 15. I also have two younger children, ages 3 and 5. For some reason, ... [snip!] ... wait til she's 18. I don't want to see her go, but I don't want anything bad to happen to my younger child. What do you think?"</blockquote>




Has she ever had a good reson as to hating the 5 year old this much?

Kicking her out wont change how she feels about the 5yo, and it will probably cause more problems between the two of you. If she tends to get violent with her sister and does more than just slam her fingers in the door, then you need to sit her down and have a long chat. If your 5yo has bruises and stuff from your 17yo, CPS can step in and you will loose your children. Also talk to your 5yo and have her understand that she needs to avoid her older sister, and keep them separated at all times. If you have the ability to, set up nanny cams so you can see exactly what is going on so it's not a "He said/She said" situation. Maybe look into anger management classes for your 17yo and personally take her to them so you know she is going. Ask around to see what other programs you can get her into. Also try to spend more time with your 17yo just one on one, go out have fun every now and then so she knows she is not being forgotten or replace.

I hate my youngest sister. She's a snotty, manipulative little bitch. It infuriates me that my mom lets her get away with murder and then tells me to just let her be a smurfhead to me because "I'm the adult".

Trying to force her to like her sister or threatening to kick her out over it is not going to improve things. Just stop making her babysit, remind her to keep a civil attitude as she should be expected to do with anyone, and stop making her feel like her feelings are invalid.

Quoting HisDiva3:" I have three teens, ages 18, 17, and 15. I also have two younger children, ages 3 and 5. For some reason, ... [snip!] ... wait til she's 18. I don't want to see her go, but I don't want anything bad to happen to my younger child. What do you think?"

I dont think kicking her out would be the answer maybe you should sit her down and explain how you feel about this whole situation tell her that this little girl looks up to her sister and she should not be treating her like that maybe you could do some activities with just the two of them outside of the home it would maybbe help the relationship i think if you kick her out your daughters going to resent the younger girl more and she will feel unloved and unwanted she will think that your putting your other daughter before her. Maybe you should have a talk with your younger daughter also and tell her she has to be nice to her sister and respect her because shes older than her, there has to be another way around this..

Quoting They call me mama.:" If you kick her out she will resent your 5 year old even more. She will think your choosing the 5 year ... [snip!] ... behind your back. I would have a heart to heart with your older child, sounds like there are some underlying issues. Good luck."

Perfect answer.

SO got kicked out recently he is 17. Luckily he had me to go to, he went back a few days later.

I would just wait it out. I can understand, 17 year olds don't really ever like their siblings. SO and his 8 year old brother get into it sometimes (although most of the time it's because his brother is disobeying his mom and he gets so mad about it. His brother acts like he is a helpless 3 year old sometimes.). I would just wait it out, she will be 18 in one year then you can legally kick her out if she still acts this way.