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Thanks everyone. I don't want to, but it seems there's only one thing I can really do about it.

Uh I'd probably find out where he really went, find out why he was lying and probably not be with him if he was sneaking behind my back to see someone I wasn't comfortable with him being around

I would be pissed off. SO had an issue with being less than honest with me, and it almost ended our relationship. I don't like being lied to.

I would tell him to get his ass home and explain himself, and if he didn't come up with a smurfing inspiring explanation I would walk. A relationship is nothing without honesty

Quoting [wtf] i'm heather.:" Uh I'd probably find out where he really went, find out why he was lying and probably not be with him if he was sneaking behind my back to see someone I wasn't comfortable with him being around"

How would I find out where he is? I can't just go looking for him because they can be anywhere.

Hes being awfully sneaky and is choosing this girl over having an honest healthy relationship with you. I would give him an ultimatum.
Seems sorta fishy...=(
I would be beyond upset.

It sounds like an unhealthy relationship with no trust. Not that you should trust him w the way he's been acting, but I think it's sad he won't just be open with you. I'd be livid. Honestly I'd just leave until he was ready to tell the whole truth.

Sounds to me like he's been cheating and ur just to weak to leave him ..

Quoting They call me mama.:" Hes being awfully sneaky and is choosing this girl over having an honest healthy relationship with you. I would give him an ultimatum. Seems sorta fishy...=( I would be beyond upset."

If you're having to give ultimatums the relationship might as well be over, IMO.
OP, he sounds like a loser. He physically and mentally abused you, and is now lying to you (and very possibly cheating on you). How many more reasons do you need to leave??

sounds to me like you know what's going on and just don't want to let go. I'd drop him

I would do a reverse lookup search, screen shot it send it to him call him a liar and leave a bag with his clothes outside.. all the gitls we used to work with all loved husband, never liked me, I know he would hook up with thiet friends b4 we got together... all of a sudden we got together and they didn't want me around, which was whatever when we had baby and got married I invited them and they didn't want nothing to do with us... I've become friends with his exes, he's cool with my exes, if they want to be friends with him I'm included now ,don't like it, oh well... luckily my husband didn't care in the end to lose them but ur husband sounds shady, and he could kick rocks with that mess...

Quoting ℐ+ℳ=£:" I would be pissed off. SO had an issue with being less than honest with me, and it almost ended our relationship. ... [snip!] ... himself, and if he didn't come up with a smurfing inspiring explanation I would walk. A relationship is nothing without honesty"

I don't either and I know he won't come if I call him right now. I don't even want him here right now because my parents are home and I don't want to argue in front of them. I wouldn't want to leave because everything else in our relationship has seriously been amazing. He changed completely a year and a half ago and our relationship has been almost perfect until this.

Quoting MommyToWesley:" If you're having to give ultimatums the relationship might as well be over, IMO. OP, he sounds like ... [snip!] ... mentally abused you, and is now lying to you (and very possibly cheating on you). How many more reasons do you need to leave??"

So true. And from the sounds of it, this relationship should be over. =( Sorry OP.

<blockquote><b>Quoting almuuh:</b>" I don't either and I know he won't come if I call him right now. I don't even want him here right now ... [snip!] ... seriously been amazing. He changed completely a year and a half ago and our relationship has been almost perfect until this."</blockquote>




Usually if it seems too good to be true, it is.

Quoting MommyToWesley:" If you're having to give ultimatums the relationship might as well be over, IMO. OP, he sounds like ... [snip!] ... mentally abused you, and is now lying to you (and very possibly cheating on you). How many more reasons do you need to leave??"

He changed completely or I wouldn't be with him anymore. And this is the one and only thing that's come up in almost 2 years. I know he wouldn't cheat but is friends with her without wanting me to know.

Quoting almuuh:" He changed completely or I wouldn't be with him anymore. And this is the one and only thing that's come ... [snip!] ... and only thing that's come up in almost 2 years. I know he wouldn't cheat but is friends with her without wanting me to know."

Clearly he has not changed completely. I don't think any of us can say anything that's is going to change your mind but what your guy is doing even IF hes not cheating is wrong. Hes choosing this woman over the health of your relationship without regard to your feeling and you deserve better.