re: Hating motherhood sometime

to want a break is not normal? he goes to school gets sent home figts been to multiple schools i think it is only normal to want just a few days or so to myself with my husband handling things and not me.

Nope. I need a break from time to time but as soon as they are gone or sleeping I miss them. My kids are the only thing I am sure of most days. They are my life, my world, my everything. I knew I could never feel the same about anyone else's kids ( I mean I love my nieces and nephews but not in the same way) so I refused to date guys with kids when I was single. It just wasn't fair to the guy or the kid. Some people can but I couldn't.

Quoting BubbleLush:" to want a break is not normal? he goes to school gets sent home figts been to multiple schools i think ... [snip!] ... multiple schools i think it is only normal to want just a few days or so to myself with my husband handling things and not me."

"sometimes I do not even want to look at him" is not normal.
Wanting a break IS.

However, he is in school all day. Babies are not.

How do you plan to handle a baby in addition to him?

Quoting BubbleLush:" to want a break is not normal? he goes to school gets sent home figts been to multiple schools i think ... [snip!] ... multiple schools i think it is only normal to want just a few days or so to myself with my husband handling things and not me."

Sorry that's not the way life works. Yeah you can get a day to yourself or something sometimes but not a few days. Being a parent is a full-time gig not just when you can "handle" it.

Quoting InkDMomma:" Sorry that's not the way life works. Yeah you can get a day to yourself or something sometimes but not a few days. Being a parent is a full-time gig not just when you can "handle" it."

 

<blockquote><b>Quoting Lita ღ Kailey:</b>" I need a break sometimes but I would never take it as far as saying I hate it or can't look at my child. Do you think you could be suffering from postpartum depression?"</blockquote>


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Sorry you are going though this, but yes, I agree with the other posters, you need to talk to someone.

And you need to figure out why you resent him...is it his behaviors? or the time away from your spouse? or what? I think once you figure out the underlying issue you can start dealing with this better.

Schedule a few breaks away from him on a regular basis too. You deserve it.

Being a step parent is difficult because these kids are raised differently than you would raise your own. Also, you have limitations on what you can say and do. I would talk to your husband and come up with a plan to better deal with his behavior and how to discipline.

It sounds like you are really stressed, and you may also want to talk to someone who can understand and specializes in family counseling. Best of luck.

well just going to talk to my husband about it and hope we can come up with a solution we rarely get to talk maybe that is the problem and hopefully he can start helping more thanks.