re: co parenting--what should be joint.

Quoting Penises 3:Vaginas 1:" <blockquote><b>Quoting The Doctor:</b>" Hmm. Okay-- here's what I think would be ... [snip!] ... good idea thanks! I dont care if they eat it, as long as they can tolerate it. I dont plan on buying his groceries for him lol."

Then, yeah. Communication is definitely key. Just tell him what your concerns are and ask if he's willing to help ease your fears about them having too much red meat too fast. I think if you present things in a way that's asking for cooperation instead of demanding, it definitely works out way better. haha

My parents had joint custody of my brother and me and all the big things like schools, holidays, etc (and probably other things that I thought didn't matter at the time) were all made as joint decisions between them and as we both got older they asked how we felt too. But apart from that, the houses were worlds apart. At times it wasn't great, sometimes confusing for our friends and any clubs we were in, but it worked for the most part. Mum's rules were for her house and dad's rules were for his.

<blockquote><b>Quoting The Doctor:</b>" Then, yeah. Communication is definitely key. Just tell him what your concerns are and ask if he's willing ... [snip!] ... if you present things in a way that's asking for cooperation instead of demanding, it definitely works out way better. haha"</blockquote>




Lol. Yeah, yelling and arguements get you no where fast.  . And this divorce, has caused a lot of resentment and anger. I just need remember to keep our divorce and our "co parenting" in two separate catergories in my mind.

Quoting Penises 3:Vaginas 1:" <blockquote><b>Quoting The Doctor:</b>" Then, yeah. Communication is definitely key. ... [snip!] ... resentment and anger. I just need remember to keep our divorce and our "co parenting" in two separate catergories in my mind."

For sure. If you're able to do that, even most of the time, it'll make co-parenting so much better. haha <3

And I'm sorry to hear about the divorce.   Even if it's for the better, I'm sure it's hard.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Alice.:</b>" My parents had joint custody of my brother and me and all the big things like schools, holidays, etc ... [snip!] ... friends and any clubs we were in, but it worked for the most part. Mum's rules were for her house and dad's rules were for his."</blockquote>




Thanks!

<blockquote><b>Quoting The Doctor:</b>" For sure. If you're able to do that, even most of the time, it'll make co-parenting so much better. ... [snip!] ... so much better. haha <3 And I'm sorry to hear about the divorce.   Even if it's for the better, I'm sure it's hard."</blockquote>


Haha thanks! It does suck though.

Quoting Penises 3:Vaginas 1:" Please bare with me, I dont have a laptop right now and Im typing this on my tablet, which I hate doing. ... [snip!] ... and obviously, Im going to have to start. Sorry if I dont respond, once again I hate using my tablet. Thanks in advance!"

I could never be on the same page with my son's father and his family. After some time I just got use to it and they got use to me, as so long as they werent crossing the line I was ok with things (although I pretty much hated everything they did lol).

Quoting кinga:" I could never be on the same page with my son's father and his family. After some time I just got use ... [snip!] ... to me, as so long as they werent crossing the line I was ok with things (although I pretty much hated everything they did lol)."

wow unless he was abusing you and your son, why is there so much hostility toward him?

Quoting Kelly&Coralie:" wow unless he was abusing you and your son, why is there so much hostility toward him?"

Oh no he was abusing me infront of my son. But it's just that they never listend to what I had to say and did things behind my back (like give my son noodle soup at 4 months).