re: How bad is an abortion you don't want?

my grandma is in her 70's her mom used a clothes hanger so yeah it probably was illegal.

Financially and logocally abortion seems like my best bet emotionally I can't handle it so well

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sophie's dairy cow:</b>" my grandma is in her 70's her mom used a clothes hanger so yeah it probably was illegal. "</blockquote>




HOMG, that makes me want to cry.

Quoting Elena Dawn's mommy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Jessi Graffia:</b>" If you dont want an abortion then this ... [snip!] ... haven't had one op, but good luck. There are women here that you can talk to that actually know what they're talking about."

I just decided to use logic that if she doesnt want an abortion odds are she will regret having one. I'm only trying to help.

Quoting Jessi Graffia:" I just decided to use logic that if she doesnt want an abortion odds are she will regret having one. I'm only trying to help."

She might regret it now, but in the future, she might see things differently.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jessi Graffia:</b>" I just decided to use logic that if she doesnt want an abortion odds are she will regret having one. I'm only trying to help."</blockquote>




All your posts are based on what logic? In another post in this thread you said you know how hard adoption is too. So have you gone through with an adoption? Or was that reply an ignorant one as well?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sophie's dairy cow:</b>" my grandma is in her 70's her mom used a clothes hanger so yeah it probably was illegal. "</blockquote>



At 8 months? 32-36 weeks?! im sorry but i just honestly don't believe that. she would have had to deliver the baby. & if it was later in her 8th month, baby could have survived...

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♥Mama Constantine:</b>" She might regret it now, but in the future, she might see things differently. "</blockquote>


Ding ding ding

Quoting Elena Dawn's mommy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Jessi Graffia:</b>" I just decided to use logic that if she ... [snip!] ... said you know how hard adoption is too. So have you gone through with an adoption? Or was that reply an ignorant one as well?"

I base my judgement on the thought of having to give my baby up for adoption. I dont understand why you are in such a tizzy. what did i say that was wrong? I offered up opinion and advice just as she asked. I didnt do anything wrong. If she goes in a different direction than what I said that is her choice.

i had 2 abortions i didnt want, for financial and logical reasons but i had more important people than myself to consider (i have other children, your own children always must come first, before yourself) and i believed it was best for them .

it broke my heart and it was hard, the frist time particularly... but i'm surviving and moving on with my life and i'll be ok

TBH if i'd had no children i wouldnt have aborted for my husband, nor my parents, not for anyone but myself. the only people i would abort for are my children! i believe they deserve better than having to make sacrifices for another baby i can't afford

i am an adult so it wasnt my parents pushing me into it it was my husband. he threatened to leave me and if we didnt already have children i would have let him go and brought up the baby myself. i didnt want my children to break up what is to them a happy family though i had to put them first!

my first baby i was a bit younger (still over 18 though) but still my mom yelled at me to "get rid of it" and lectured me and pressured me to abort. we fell out i didnt speak to her for 3 days. i kept the baby  

i had my own home though, and a job, and was living with my boyfriend (now my husband) and i was 25, i had enjoyed a good 10 years of partying, holidays, doing all the joys of being grown-up and child-free (and its only once you've had children you truly appreciate that freedom of being an adult having no parents controlling you and having no children to tie you down either)
also i have never been a single mother but i know a few and i hear it is very very hard work....
i expect this is why your parents are so against it because they dont want to see you lose out and go through al the hard work of bringing up a baby, particularly when you are so youngt

it is your choice sweetie if i am honest i would say i think you would be better waiting at least 10 years to have children i know you'd miss out so much but you are already pregnant now and i have been in your position so many times (unintended pregnancy i mean, 5 of my 6 pregnancies were unplanned!) some people arent interested in all that freedom stuff and just like to be homely, if thats really what you want then dont let anyone bully you

if they really love you they will come round in time if you keep it and try to support you as much as they can. you'd have to prove yourself to them- i did- i was so immature when i was pregnant with my first (i was 25 but acted 15 lol) and self-absorbed and selfish and lazy (not saying you are all those things!) i think my parents expected i couldnt handle a baby and thought i'd end up just dumping it on them all the time.... i did prove them all wrong though and turn out to be a very dedicated mother. i even surprised myself...

take some time and careful consideration honey, good luck no matter what you decide. x x x

hey hun, have you talked to a school counselor yet? They may have some great advice. your area may have special schools for young moms and ways to help you and baby.

I have a friend who got pregnant when she was 12 and had an abortion because she knew she couldn't raise a baby even though she wanted it. She actually became suicidally depressed and to this day she still wishes that she had done the adoption rather than abortion. That is honestly what I would worry about with you, both decisions are hard and you really need to think them both through but there is almost no way you are going to be able to raise it especially if your parents don't want you to have it because they would be the ones supporting you and your child. I think you need to actually go and talk to some adoption agencies and just see what they have to say and then go talk to planned parenthood and see what they have to say and then decide and just make sure the decision you make is best for you.

You tube.... and watch all the parts! It shows exactly what you choose when you have an abortion!   Its really your choice! Good luck!

Quoting Mom of 3 & 1 on the way! :" You tube.... and watch all the parts! It shows exactly what you choose when you have an abortion!   Its really your choice! Good luck!"

Oh shut the hell up. Most of those videos are late term ones.

She, if she doesnt wait until she is past 9 weeks, can take a pill. No surgery necessary.

Take that smurf somewhere else.

<blockquote><b>Quoting JessieLeeAnne:</b>" Oh shut the hell up. Most of those videos are late term ones. She, if she doesnt wait until she is past 9 weeks, can take a pill. No surgery necessary. Take that smurf somewhere else. "</blockquote>


This.