Overwhelmed vent

At the moment I am feeling like I am a horrible mother. My son has cried off and on for almost 2 hours no matter what I have done to sooth him. He's had a bottle, I've changed him, rocked him, patted his butt, gave him his pacifier, got him to settle for a few minutes when I turned on the starry night turtle but he would not go to sleep or stop crying for long. He is not running a fever...I just don't know what I am doing wrong. Right now I have him in his swing and I had to walk away because I just feel like I am at my wits end. He is 2 and a half months old, and I love him but I feel like no matter what I do nothing is working out. Currently I am unemployed and have not been able to find a job other then working a day here and there at a family friends store, I've been trying to get assistance but seems to be taking forever, and the bd has not even asked to see him. He has a roof over his head, clothes on his back, diapers, formula, toys, a nice room....but I still feel like I short changed him. I've been doing everything to try and keep up on bills and now have to ask my father to help me out when I know he has been struggling since he has just gone back to work.I knew this would be hard but I just feel awful that I haven't been able to do more. Sorry this is all over the place and so long I just needed to get this all out I haven't been able to stop crying now . Thanks for reading this

Maybe he has gas

Deep breaths...chances are your LO is sensing your frustration etc and he is reacting to it. I would suggest talking to your Dr about postpartum, just to be safe. Have you tried a warm bath?

Quoting Kimberly Dow:" At the moment I am feeling like I am a horrible mother. My son has cried off and on for almost 2 hours ... [snip!] ... over the place and so long I just needed to get this all out I haven't been able to stop crying now . Thanks for reading this "

Hugs and believe me you are not a horrible mother and I am sure we have all been there. Tonight it took my son an hour and a half to go to sleep. He's getting too smart lol (he's a year). I swaddle him but he wiggles until he is free then he will stand up in his crib. When I tried swaddling him again he just laughs. Just take a breather. Hold him and fall asleep.

I tried bicycling his legs, and hes had gas drops.

Didnt get to finish... Dont feel like your a bad mom as long as he has everything he needs then hes fine. As far as your BD you cant force him to be in ds's life & if this is how he acts thats probably a good thing. Once you do get on assistance they can usually set you up at their job center & help you find work, they will also help pay daycare expenses if needed

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kimberly Dow:</b>" I tried bicycling his legs, and hes had gas drops."</blockquote>


This! after do a warm bath & massage him with lotion. Then rock him. I know its late but it will probably take you 45 minutes. Before you do anything go to the other room take a few deep breaths, count to rb if your fustrated he can feel it. I know these times are hard but you can do it

Hes probably just over tired. Try walking him around in his stroller or putting him in his carseat on top of the dryer (supervised), the noise & vibrations can help him soothe

Thanks ladies. I just wish things with DHS would move a little quicker it seems it is taking forever and it's always another letter they need proof of this that or whatever. I'm going to try and cuddle with Nathanial now and hopefully he will go to sleep....keeping my fingers crossed.

He could be getting colic (man does that suck). It it will pass. It doesn't mean you are a bad mom. I am sure we have all had a bad day, week, or even month lol. Things will look up I promise.

Deep breath. You're not a bad mommy. It's good that you put him down and walked away to compose yourself. He can sense you're tense and then gets tense himself. Maybe try bundling up with blankets and stepping outside to just take a deep breath with him? Sometimes it can be soothing.

As for BD, file for child support. He made that baby too. Your child deserves to be taken care of by both parents.

Quoting Kimberly Dow:" At the moment I am feeling like I am a horrible mother. My son has cried off and on for almost 2 hours ... [snip!] ... over the place and so long I just needed to get this all out I haven't been able to stop crying now . Thanks for reading this "

I feel you on everything you just typed. I was homeless for like 3 weeks living in a smurffy motel with my 1 year old, I felt like the worlds worst parent.. I'm not sure how I kept going but I did. And now my baby is 4 and we have our own place, and our own car, I got a good job, and I'm in nursing school to get a better one..
you just gotta keep your chin up and strive to do good for your lo, and things will look up I promise! As long as he has food to eat, warm bed, love and clothes and diapers and minimal toys, all this will be a distant memory when you think about it a couple years from now.

sounds like hes either gassy or hes starting to teeth. It is ok to put him down for a few to take a breath but i would try giving him some gas drops and see if that helps him. Usually when my 3 month old gets really cranky i take him outside for a few mins and that seems to calm him down but every baby is differently you just gotta find that thing that calms him down

whenever my son is like that, it's normally gas, i lay him on his tummy on the couch, give him his pacifer & rub his back until he goes to sleep. its the ONLY thing that works. he doesnt even like his pacifer, but it soothes him when hes in pain. i think im a lil late.. but just for future reference, dont feel like a bad mom, i have felt that way too. just know you're not alone, and if you get too stressed, walk away and take a few deep breathes and come back and try again.

i actually had to just to that, because i was in the same boat as you.. lol