BAD MUMS

There is no such thing as a bad mum,,,,,,
why do we constantly judge ourselves and think that if we dont do such and such,, I am a bad parent,,
Why do we think that if we just get 10 more mins sleep,,, and your child gets into something, I am a bad parent.....'I should have got up..........' Do we not deserve sleep,, I know that if I can just grab another 5 minutes, I am able to be more tolerant of my children,, and I am not affraid to say that sometimes, my kids get on my nerves,,,,,, and that if my 15 year old doesnt stop turning her clothes inside out when taking them off,, and leaving them on the floor,, I am going to belt her with them!!!!!!!!! So does that make me a bad mum???

Or what about if my girls are fighting,, just because one has looked at the other in acertain way,,,,,,,or my son throws himself on the ground when I am shopping,,, and I keep walking,,, Does that make me a bad mother???

No I think not, I am a great mum,, I love my all my kids,, I am not perfect, but that makes me a mum,, I make mistakes, and I learn from them,, and I try,, and if I make them again,, who cares !!!!!!!!
We as women need to stop judging ourselves,,, and if someone should comment to them about beind a 'BAD MUM' This is the hardest, Gruelling, Unpaid, Unthanked job in the world!!!!!!!!!!!
Then tell them there is a 'POSITION VACANT' and they are welcome to it !!!!!!!!!

Quoting mum_of_4:“ There is no such thing as a bad mum,,,,,, why do we constantly judge ourselves and think that if we ... [snip!] ... Unpaid, Unthanked job in the world!!!!!!!!!!! Then tell them there is a 'POSITION VACANT' and they are welcome to it !!!!!!!!!”

HOLY CRAP.......I am SO having one of those days. I just wrote a book on my Facebook about my crappy mothering feelings!

I'm guessing someone told you, you were a bad mother?


But, there are bad mother's out there, so yes to answer your question, I do believe there are horrible/bad/selfish/mean/unworthy, (i really could go on) bad mothers out there.

Quoting Mrs Hovey:“ I'm guessing someone told you, you were a bad mother? But, there are bad mother's out there, so ... [snip!] ... answer your question, I do believe there are horrible/bad/selfish/mean/unworthy, (i really could go on) bad mothers out there.”

I now that there are bad mums out there,,but the horrible/bad/selfish/mean/unworthy, types are not the ones that we should refer ourselves too.
I just mean that if we cant cope,, doesnt mean that we are useless,, or are a bad mother,,,,,  

Quoting mum_of_4:“ I now that there are bad mums out there,,but the horrible/bad/selfish/mean/unworthy, types are not ... [snip!] ... should refer ourselves too. I just mean that if we cant cope,, doesnt mean that we are useless,, or are a bad mother,,,,,  ”

I understand what you are saying

Thanks... I needed this today. My son has recently hit the 3 year tantrum phase. It's nice to know I'm not the only one to walk off in the middle of tantrum (the look on his face when I do is enough to make MY day  ) or want 5 more minutes even knowing he's probably getting into something in the kitchen or taking his boat for a ride in the lake (aka the toilet).
Thanks for making me smile

Sorry to be a,... um, B**** but I disagree with this. The examples you gave really didn't help you none either. Maybe the sleeping one. And kids will be kids. But I don't think a child needs to get beat for any resion. Or no mother should walk away from their child either. Even if they are being little brats. I don't think your a bad mother. But I do not agree with most of what your post says.

Quoting StephieAileen:“ Thanks... I needed this today. My son has recently hit the 3 year tantrum phase. It's nice to know I'm ... [snip!] ... getting into something in the kitchen or taking his boat for a ride in the lake (aka the toilet). Thanks for making me smile”

I'm with you on the 3 year tantrum phase. I have twins who just turned 4 and they're still going strong....

Quoting sammie~calvert:“ Sorry to be a,... um, B**** but I disagree with this. The examples you gave really didn't help you none ... [snip!] ... Even if they are being little brats. I don't think your a bad mother. But I do not agree with most of what your post says.”

All I can do is laugh. Give it a few years.

Quoting twinsplusone:“ I'm with you on the 3 year tantrum phase. I have twins who just turned 4 and they're still going strong....”

NO don't say stuff like that. Myalmost2year old is started the 2's about 3 months ago andhe doesn't really do tantrums or stuff like that so it's not too bad.... yet.... Right now he just randomly growls at people for no reason whatsoever except they are close to him or in his line of vision  , at least it's still cute for now  

I'm raising a 3 year old with my boyfriend. Oh boy, she can really get on your nerves, despite how cute she is.

There is nothing wrong with disciplining children, because they need it so they grow up into responsible adults.

Our little 3 year old gets 1 warning, 1 scolding, and if she acts up again we count down from 3 slowly. If we have to count to 1 she gets a slap on the hand. Afterwards, we ALWAYS make sure she understands why she got the smack on the hand, we have her repeat what we asked her specifically not to do (or to do, in some cases), ask her if she did it, ask her if it was wrong, and then ask if she understands.

And it works. She doesn't make those mistakes again (at least not for another week!), and she is well behaved after.

Quoting sammie~calvert:“ Sorry to be a,... um, B**** but I disagree with this. The examples you gave really didn't help you none ... [snip!] ... Even if they are being little brats. I don't think your a bad mother. But I do not agree with most of what your post says.”

Thats ok dont agree,,look beyondwhat I am saying,, I am not condoning, beatingchildren,,its a figure of speach,,,(I have 4 children, and have been pushed to the brink many times,, it doesnt mean I dont love my children)
( I thought that part would be obvious) mostly everyone that has replyed on here, have been pushed to their absolute limits,, I am saying in general, women beat themselves up to be the 'perfect parent'
And when there child does not act or behave a certain way, and you get 'that look' in a shopping center that you should be controlling your child,, well,, sorry,, but it just isnt possible,, when you are trying to do your shopping, and your child is throwing a tantrum,,, and you need to get too appointments, and organize dinner !!!!!!!!!!!!! Nor am I saying to 'leave' your child in a shopping centre,,,,,,,,
I am just stating that until you get too that brink of just not being able to cope,, its ok to state that,,, not feel like a failure

Quoting twinsplusone:“ All I can do is laugh. Give it a few years.”

LOL

Quoting mum_of_4:“ Thats ok dont agree,,look beyondwhat I am saying,, I am not condoning, beatingchildren,,its a figure ... [snip!] ... just stating that until you get too that brink of just not being able to cope,, its ok to state that,,, not feel like a failure”

Well, I deff like the way you put it now. And I never said you didn't love your children. I just remember when I was little and my mom walked away from me, I felt heart broken. And I know it is hard my mom had to put up with me and my brother and sister. But She WAS a bad mom. She had problames and she has worked them out,...sorta. But I ove her. And thanks for saying what you ment again, in a deiffrent way. I get it now. K.

Quoting twinsplusone:“ All I can do is laugh. Give it a few years.”

Oh gee. I can wait, Im NOT looking forward to the braty years.