DIAPER PARTY/BABY SHOWER?

This is my first child (a baby boy  ) and I am due on April 22, 2013. My fiance's sister and my sister are throwing us a shower but I also wanted to do a diaper party. The glitch is that my fiance is a recovering Alcoholic, he has fought hard and has been sober for just over a year now (so proud of him) but I know that when guys have Diaper Parties, they like to drink and we don't want that. Yet, they wouldn't have any fun if they couldn't drink, due to them enjoying drinking. I thought maybe if we combined the two ideas, guys bring diapers and women bring other gift, we could somehow get around the whole alcohol ordeal. Any ideas or thoughts on this idea? Thank You!

I am sorry, let me clarify....I know that you don't have alcohol at baby showers. When I refer to alcohol I am referring to when men get together for Diaper Parties, they typically shoot the breeze, have a couple beers, BBQ, play cards or whatever (so I have heard). I was just asking for ideas to get around this sort of thing since I have only been to a baby shower once in my life and I am unfamiliar with this territory. Or if we do it seperate, how do we do the no alcohol thing at the Diaper Party but still make it worth coming? thank you

For my baby shower we had a "diaper raffle" and wrote on the invitations that they get a raffle ticket for each pack of diapers they bring and then we do a drawing and the winner gets a good prize.

Hehe you're due on my bday  

Quoting Tiff + 2[girls]:" For my baby shower we had a "diaper raffle" and wrote on the invitations that they get a raffle ticket for each pack of diapers they bring and then we do a drawing and the winner gets a good prize."

 

We did this at mine as well.

Quoting Stephanie Lynn Campeau:" This is my first child (a baby boy  ) and I am due on April 22, 2013. My fiance's sister and my sister ... [snip!] ... women bring other gift, we could somehow get around the whole alcohol ordeal. Any ideas or thoughts on this idea? Thank You!"

First, you can't assume that you are going to get a "gift" or "diapers" from everyone going to your shower. Especially if they are a couple.

Why not just have a babyshower and do a diaper raffle with it.

Men don't traditionally do "baby shower" type parties anyway. Not to mention, celebrating a baby is not a party with a dj, dance floor and alcohol. It is a more mellow type of gathering. If he does have a diaper shower, it is really simple to not provide alcohol and your guests should know that if he is a recovering alcoholic, it is a terrible idea to bring it in the first place.

I went to my bffs first baby shower and her mother in law organized it all. In the invite they said to take a diapers and your name would be entered to win something. A bunch of people took her diapers and I won a gift certificate to idk what it was I don't remember it was like 6 years ago lol

I don't understand why there has to be alcohol anyways it's a baby shower and you can't drink so ppl shouldn't expect alcohol there :/
And if the people that are going are close to you guys they should know you DH doesn't drink so they should understand

Quoting Not tellin:" First, you can't assume that you are going to get a "gift" or "diapers" from everyone going to your ... [snip!] ... alcohol and your guests should know that if he is a recovering alcoholic, it is a terrible idea to bring it in the first place."

I was not assuming that I would automatically get a gift from everyone or every couple, that is rude to assume that, I was just giving an example. I know baby showers aren't a big party with alcohol but sometimes when guys do the whole diaper party thing (so I have heard) they BBQ, play cards or whatever and have a few beers, was just trying to get around that whole "few beers" thing, politely, and thought maybe this would be a good idea. And thanks on the idea for a diaper raffle thing, I have only been to one baby shower before, years ago, so I didn't know about something like that and it's a great idea.

Quoting Y+I=KENDRA:" I don't understand why there has to be alcohol anyways it's a baby shower and you can't drink so ppl ... [snip!] ... :/ And if the people that are going are close to you guys they should know you DH doesn't drink so they should understand"

Well at a baby shower there isn't alcohol, I was referring to when guys get together and have a diaper party and sometimes have beers/alcohol present  

Quoting Stephanie Lynn Campeau:" Well at a baby shower there isn't alcohol, I was referring to when guys get together and have a diaper party and sometimes have beers/alcohol present  "

Never in my life have I ever heard of men having a diaper shower. LOL

<blockquote><b>Quoting Stephanie Lynn Campeau:</b>" Well at a baby shower there isn't alcohol, I was referring to when guys get together and have a diaper party and sometimes have beers/alcohol present  "</blockquote>




I really have never heard of that lol
Only one time that I went there was guys there and they all stayed outside lol
But honestly why put your fiancé in that kind of situation where he has to see others drink? Just have the raffle

Quoting Y+I=KENDRA:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Stephanie Lynn Campeau:</b>" Well at a baby shower there isn't ... [snip!] ... outside lol But honestly why put your fiancé in that kind of situation where he has to see others drink? Just have the raffle"

I would NEVER put him in that sort of situation, hence why I am asking on a forum to find ways around it and ideas

I think asking for the woman to bring a gift and the man to bring a pack of diapers is alittle much, not everyone can afford to do two gifts if any gift at all. That seems needy...to ask for it on invitations anyway.

Quoting bloopbloop♥™:" Never in my life have I ever heard of men having a diaper shower. LOL"

I saw it on here a few times. It is normally from the girls who think that people are going to buy them everything off the registry and take care of the babys needs. They are also the ones who host their own and have multiples. To me, it just screams "needy" all the way around. One shower is good enough for me. It is to welcome the mother to motherhood and celebrate the baby. Once a mother, well do you need another welcome? lol

I guess it was a mistake to post this question here, everyone either thinks I think the shower is about drinking or I am being needy or selfish. I am not assuming that everyone is going to bring 2 gifts, that even everyone will bring a gift. I was using it as an example