<blockquote><b>Quoting º×ß¡±©µ×º:</b>" i just believe the amount shouldnt change just cause the man keeps having children . why does the other parent have to pay more because the other parent has more children with someone else ."</blockquote>


Why not? If a married couple has a child, and then chooses to have another child, they cannot afford to spend the same amount of money on child number 1. In a nuclear family household how the money is divided changes with each subsequent child; so, why should it be any different for parent who are longer together?

I feel you are looking at this throu biased eyes. You seem to be judging as if all men are dead beat am holes,who cannot afford their children. Paying child support does not at all reflect a "type" of person.

Quoting Historymomma:" <blockquote><b>Quoting º×ß¡±©µ×º:</b>" i just believe the amount shouldnt change ... [snip!] ... men are dead beat am holes,who cannot afford their children. Paying child support does not at all reflect a "type" of person."

yep i have biased eyes as a single mother because i get a small amount of child support because my ex and his smurf had three more kids

Quoting º×ß¡±©µ×º:" yep i have biased eyes as a single mother because i get a small amount of child support because my ex and his smurf had three more kids "

What happens if he died... you wouldnt have the support at all. Or if he didnt pay... what would you do?

I do think that guys (and girls) should WANT to pay for their children, but if they arent involved I dont think they should pay. Better programs should be in place to help those parents get a job, get a GOOD job, get through school, get decent daycare, etc... without making the parent feel like they are barely surviving. I dont think it should be all about child support or you can't survive.

I am all about programs to help and raise the family up... get that Mom through school to get a job! But in the end, I am actually very against making a man or woman be involved in any way, even if its just monetarily, for a child they didnt want. That doesnt help the mom OR the child and can be extremely detrimental to the child. "Daddy/Mommy doesnt want to pay for me, doesn't want to see me, Mommy gets pissed off and yells... yup life sucks!"

It'd be better to have NO father there, and make it easier for parents to go to college to get a better job so the kid can say "We may not be rich, but Mommy is about to graduate where she can make a couple thousand more a month and we can live comfortably." College needs to be cheaper... child care needs to be cheaper... it CAN be done if people werent so greedy and didnt rely on making deadbeat parents that are not conducive to the child at all pay/be involved.

Quoting FroggysMommy:" What happens if he died... you wouldnt have the support at all. Or if he didnt pay... what would you ... [snip!] ... people werent so greedy and didnt rely on making deadbeat parents that are not conducive to the child at all pay/be involved."

My ex is in the kids life as much as he can be but lives 10 hours away and with our kids being 6 and 8 and in school he only gets to see them for 1 week winter break one week spring break and for most of the summer . i try to make things as fair as possible for the both of us . ive worked since he left me so i dont rely on child support its just nice to have the extra sometimes kwim

Quoting FroggysMommy:" What I'm saying is... if a man has a child born and is paying 400 a bucks in child support, the court ... [snip!] ... a lot of the time. Most of the time, actually. Girls go for child support despite the guy CLEARLY not wanting to be there."

My ex had a son with someone else before we had our daughter. He only has to pay $50 p/month for him, but he has to pay $189 p/month for our daughter. He never pays...but that's not my point. this case the first born is recieving less money so I'm not sure where you're getting that from. Maybe it differs state to state?