it's decided... divorce =/

i have decided divorce is my route. i am scared due to i cannot handle seeing people upset it makes me feel guilty but i know i am not happy and i feel he is in denial about being unhappy as well. i do not have money for a divorce and as a stay at home mom have been applying for jobs lately my parents said me and my children can move in it's just i never thought i'd be one of the people to gett married and divorced in less than a year. but we are young and both deserve happiness. for those of you who have seen my past posts there are many other reasons as to why regarding his distancing from my son and me. his lack of appreciation and compassion and he is not who he used to be. i am scared of the fact he will be bitter and difficult. i am scared my son will not see the people in his family who he loves anymore esp. my in laws. i just need support right now for i feel bad but am doing what is right for me

<blockquote><b>Quoting Cnc1990:</b>" i have decided divorce is my route. i am scared due to i cannot handle seeing people upset it makes me ... [snip!] ... his family who he loves anymore esp. my in laws. i just need support right now for i feel bad but am doing what is right for me"</blockquote>


Have you tried counseling or anything? Even separating for a little while and seeing how things go?

i understand. i just finished mt divorce and i filed pro-sey through the county's bar association. it personally only cost me 30 total.

Quoting Will☮Creedence:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Cnc1990:</b>" i have decided divorce is my route. i am scared ... [snip!] ... me"</blockquote> Have you tried counseling or anything? Even separating for a little while and seeing how things go?"

This!

I just read your last post. Do you think your ex has something to do with you wanting a divorce?

Hope I'm not crossing any boundaries here...

I took a moment, since I'm really new on the site and don't know anybody, or their stories, to look at your other posts, and I've seen a couple of things within them.

First off, he sounds pretty controlling...I was reading a couple of the things he does and he is definitely out of line on some things.

But I think you're both having an emotional affair with each other...You had said you had caught him on an online dating site...Definitely overstepping a boundary. But then there was the whole thing with your friend...I think his name was Jason. You have to be really careful here, because your friendship with someone can look more appealing than your own marriage, and suck the desire out of you to stay in love with your partner.

I would definitely consider counselling...Three years into our marriage I thought we were going to end up divorced...We went to a program that absolutely saved our marriage, and taught us so much about the way we interact with each other, and how it impacts us individually.

Have you guys tried splitting off for awhile? Maybe you going to your parents place for awhile and he going to his?

i've read your other post...if jason never came back in the picture..would you still have decided on divorce? You havent even been married for a year, marriage sometimes takes work. You married him for a reason. It's not always romance and giggles. There's rough patches, especially when you have kids..it' easy to lose sight of one another. Well, goodluck with whatever you do. Just dont give up too easily.

Quoting October2011:" i've read your other post...if jason never came back in the picture..would you still have decided on ... [snip!] ... when you have kids..it' easy to lose sight of one another. Well, goodluck with whatever you do. Just dont give up too easily."

Oh! Have you been married for less than a year? Holy, if that's all you've been married for...trust me. The first year sucks. It's the hardest year to stick together for...If you guys aren't getting along in the first year, that's actually considered healthy, because you're learning how to work with each other, and that's what carries you through a marriage.

One tip I was given was to remember why I married my husband. I don't know if your husband ever wrote you love letters...Mine did. Or if you have your wedding guest book or cards around, take a minute to read it, and see what people said about your relationship. Figure out why you married him in the first place, and then take a moment to compliment him on those attributes. It goes a long way.

Quoting October2011:" i've read your other post...if jason never came back in the picture..would you still have decided on ... [snip!] ... when you have kids..it' easy to lose sight of one another. Well, goodluck with whatever you do. Just dont give up too easily."

 

Divorce should always be the LAST resort, after everything else has failed. You need to know that you did everything you possibly could to salvage this marriage, otherwise you will end up resenting yourself.

Before you file anything, try a trial separation. You may find after a week or two that you really do miss him, and that you want to fix things with him.

Quoting Mama Crash ☮:"   Divorce should always be the LAST resort, after everything else has failed. You need to know that ... [snip!] ... a trial separation. You may find after a week or two that you really do miss him, and that you want to fix things with him. "

I couldn't agree with this more.

Quoting Blue Song:" Hope I'm not crossing any boundaries here... I took a moment, since I'm really new on the site and don't ... [snip!] ... Have you guys tried splitting off for awhile? Maybe you going to your parents place for awhile and he going to his?"

This, definitely try this....you are young but you should at least try before moving on to "happiness" outside of your marriage.

Quoting Blue Song:" Hope I'm not crossing any boundaries here... I took a moment, since I'm really new on the site and don't ... [snip!] ... Have you guys tried splitting off for awhile? Maybe you going to your parents place for awhile and he going to his?"

What was the name of the program?

i have tried everything he doesnt try to work on it at all n yes i have asked why we got married n i must say i think it was lust as to why we got engaged n continued it into marriage due to me being pregnant

<blockquote><b>Quoting Cnc1990:</b>" i have tried everything he doesnt try to work on it at all n yes i have asked why we got married n i ... [snip!] ... we got married n i must say i think it was lust as to why we got engaged n continued it into marriage due to me being pregnant"</blockquote>


How long have you been married?