I had an abortion after rape at 9 weeks this past June. I will be 9 weeks tomorrow and feel really guilty. I am very excited about my pregnancy but I almost feel like the terrible morning sickness and cramping is punishment for my decision...I feel guilty for being happy even though this came at the right time with the right person. Does anyone have some advice? Is is bad for me to feel that way?
I am really sorry that happened to you, mama. I don't think you should feel bad being excited about this pregnancy, you said it just right, it's the right time and the right person. The symptoms you are having are not punishing you, it's just the crappy luck of the pregnancy draw. I think you deserve to be happy about this baby, and I hope you feel better soon.
Sorry that happened to you. I would have done the same thing in your situation. You shouldn't feel guilty and you should be happy about your current pregnancy if you are happy about it. Don't think about it like you are being punished. Most woman have cramping and morning sickness. I know I sure did with both my girls. Just a "lovely" part of pregnancy. Be happy about your baby and enjoy the ride. It gets loads better once the morning sickness goes away
I can imagine reversing the roles, and yes, I'm sure I would feel the same. It's so much easier though being on the other side and saying no, don't feel guilty! But know in your heart you did the right decision for you at THAT time.. That embryo would have been with you for the rest of your life and you would have had that constant reminder of how that child came about, and possibly resent them. That's not fair.
Now you are haing a baby at what you feel like is the right time and can give them a more ideal life! Although I think you being "punished" is silly, first trimester (usually) sucks no matter what!