re: KICKING AND SCREAMING 20

Oh. My. Gosh. STOP with the "she's too sexually mature" thing. I don't know what is wrong with you, but STOP.

Quoting Stfu Shirley:" It was a popular look for guys at the time. I have a thing for girly men anyway. I didn't marry one, though."

Was it? It has never been something I've been particularly attracted to. Now, maybe if he gave me an entire library I'd change my mind   But then I'd be both materialistic and judgmental based on looks. What a shame.

Quoting grace life:" Oh. My. Gosh. STOP with the "she's too sexually mature" thing. I don't know what is wrong with you, but STOP. "

 

Quoting Thisperyears:"  "

My sister. I don't even know where to start.

Like six months ago her son came over and played. My daughter told me that her son (who was only 4 at the time, now 5) showed her his butt and then she saw his penis. Very long story short, it turns out he had tried to be funny by "mooning" her, and then he couldn't pull up his pants in time and they fell completely down. Well, my sister flipped out...asked me if Kay was sexually abused, or how she was "so sexually mature". Because she called it a penis. She said, "My son doesn't use language like that."   I tried to calm her down explaining to her that we do use the proper names for things, etc. Anyways. For some reason she brought it up again, I'm clueless as to why. It isn't even a topic we've discussed in...4 or 5 months? It is bizarre.

Hit "post" too soon. My daughter was scared to say what happened, because she thought she was in trouble (I assured her she was not.) Well, when my sister took it upon herself to talk to Kay about it. She informed Kay that it was bad to be a liar, and Kay was convinced she was a liar. (Because she got scared and then said she didn't see anything.) So, basically my sister shamed her into thinking she did something wrong -- at three years old.    I don't know. It's complicated, I guess. None of it made sense, and I had to try to convince Kay that she was not a liar, she was a good girl for telling me, even if he was only trying to joke.

But yea, anyways. For some reason my sister has decided to bring it all up again.

Quoting grace life:" My sister. I don't even know where to start. Like six months ago her son came over and played. My ... [snip!] ... she brought it up again, I'm clueless as to why. It isn't even a topic we've discussed in...4 or 5 months? It is bizarre. "

Yes because using the anatomically correct terms definitely = sexual abuse  

<blockquote><b>Quoting grace life:</b>"   Respect is a huge thing in this house. I think it's a very learned behavior though. I've seen some incredibly disrespectful adults, and their children generally follow suit. "</blockquote>

Right. It's sad. And behind most disrespectful adults...are crappy parents   it's never ending.

Quoting grace life:" Was it? It has never been something I've been particularly attracted to. Now, maybe if he gave me an ... [snip!] ... me an entire library I'd change my mind   But then I'd be both materialistic and judgmental based on looks. What a shame."

Yeah, the whole androgyny thing was big. Fashion was really big on breaking boundaries, and the hair bands of the early 80's were giving way to a more sophisticated douchey ponytails on men look. Renaissance revival started getting really big around then too, and I think he was sort of supposed to have a "Renaissance man" aesthetic - smart, well-read, gentle, and all of that.

I was in hs in the early 90's, and it was really trendy for boys to grow their hair long. Some of them were kind of metal, some were more hippy, some were intellectuals...it's not such a big look now, but it was everywhere then. Plus, bands like The Cure were really huge at that time, who pushed gender boundaries a lot. There's something really sexy, I think, about a man who isn't afraid to push boundaries.

<blockquote><b>Quoting grace life:</b>" Hit "post" too soon. My daughter was scared to say what happened, because she thought she was in trouble ... [snip!] ... me, even if he was only trying to joke. But yea, anyways. For some reason my sister has decided to bring it all up again. "</blockquote>

Niiiice.

Quoting Stfu Shirley:" Yeah, the whole androgyny thing was big. Fashion was really big on breaking boundaries, and the hair ... [snip!] ... who pushed gender boundaries a lot. There's something really sexy, I think, about a man who isn't afraid to push boundaries."

Very true. I never thought about it in relation to when it was made, makes sense.

I'm still bummed for Belle.  

I'm way too boring with my taste in men. Give me classic good looks and throw in some tattoos.

Quoting grace life:" Very true. I never thought about it in relation to when it was made, makes sense. I'm still bummed ... [snip!] ... still bummed for Belle.   I'm way too boring with my taste in men. Give me classic good looks and throw in some tattoos. "

Ah, she was my age, so don't feel sorry for her. I'm sure she was very happy.

I'm not into tattoos. Dh has a bunch, and I have a couple, but it's just meh to me now. They used to be a really edgy thing, and I have a strong appreciation for edgy, but now they're just no big deal and I'd rather look at a strong, untattooed arm that is beautiful in its natural state than one covered in someone else's art.

But to each her own. My opinions on most things have changed over the past 10-15 years.

Quoting Stfu Shirley:" Ah, she was my age, so don't feel sorry for her. I'm sure she was very happy. I'm not into tattoos. ... [snip!] ... one covered in someone else's art. But to each her own. My opinions on most things have changed over the past 10-15 years."

Mine have changed very much in the past few years, and I'm sure they'll change more. Thankfully, I think DH is super hot -- which really is all that matters.

<blockquote><b>Quoting grace life:</b>" Mine have changed very much in the past few years, and I'm sure they'll change more. Thankfully, I think DH is super hot -- which really is all that matters. "</blockquote>


He is pretty cute  

Quoting Mayhem.:" <blockquote><b>Quoting grace life:</b>" Mine have changed very much in the past few ... [snip!] ... more. Thankfully, I think DH is super hot -- which really is all that matters. "</blockquote> He is pretty cute  "

I've always wondered why he settled with me  

Gloomy skies. No motivation.