Quoting grace life:" Was it? It has never been something I've been particularly attracted to. Now, maybe if he gave me an ... [snip!] ... me an entire library I'd change my mind But then I'd be both materialistic and judgmental based on looks. What a shame."
Yeah, the whole androgyny thing was big. Fashion was really big on breaking boundaries, and the hair bands of the early 80's were giving way to a more sophisticated douchey ponytails on men look. Renaissance revival started getting really big around then too, and I think he was sort of supposed to have a "Renaissance man" aesthetic - smart, well-read, gentle, and all of that.
I was in hs in the early 90's, and it was really trendy for boys to grow their hair long. Some of them were kind of metal, some were more hippy, some were intellectuals...it's not such a big look now, but it was everywhere then. Plus, bands like The Cure were really huge at that time, who pushed gender boundaries a lot. There's something really sexy, I think, about a man who isn't afraid to push boundaries.