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Is it possible to parent as a very young teen?

posted 11th Dec

I'm 13 and almost 7 weeks pregnant my parents want to get an abprtion the biggest issue is that my bf doesn't want it I can't tell my parents he's the dad so I want to hide that he got me pregnant but I want the baby I don't want an abortion I want my child. I have a right to have these feelings but I don't want anyone else to have to suffer for it. Advice? Is it possible to parent with very little support?

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I'm due July 31st & live in Japan

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XxWhite_RosexX

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posted 11th Dec

this is very sad

just do what you feel is right. how old is your bf? and have you told your parents yet?

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I have 1 child & live in United Kingdom

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posted 11th Dec

I have 1 child & 3 angel babies & live in Windsor, Ontario

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JessieLeeAnne

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posted 11th Dec

Quoting Youngteenmom12:" I'm 13 and almost 7 weeks pregnant my parents want to get an abprtion the biggest issue is that my bf ... [snip!] ... feelings but I don't want anyone else to have to suffer for it. Advice? Is it possible to parent with very little support?"

I think it is up to your parents, since they will be the ones raising it.

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I have 1 child & live in South Carolina

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Crystal Marie S.

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posted 11th Dec

You absolutely have the right to want to keep your baby, but, how can you support that baby? Working isn't an option, you're too young. You can't expect your Parents to support him/her and legally, they don't have to. I think you need to have a long hard think on what is best for you right now. Keeping baby, adoption or abortion.

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I have 3 kids & live in Hephzibah, Georgia

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House of Estrogen

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posted 11th Dec

At 13? No. You're still a child. You're financially dependent on someone, you can't provide your own shelter, food, or transportation.

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I live in Washington, District of Columbia

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Youngteenmom1223 posts

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posted 11th Dec

They know they don't want me to keep it though

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I'm due July 31st & live in Japan

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posted 11th Dec

Considering you're so young, it should be more up to them. Even if you're the one "raising" the child, they'll be not only supporting you, but supporting the infant for AT LEAST 3 years until you can legally get a job and support the child yourself.

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I live in Minnesota

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posted 11th Dec

Quoting Youngteenmom12:" I'm 13 and almost 7 weeks pregnant my parents want to get an abprtion the biggest issue is that my bf ... [snip!] ... feelings but I don't want anyone else to have to suffer for it. Advice? Is it possible to parent with very little support?"

I can't tell you what to do, but here is what I suggest:

I would seriously consideran open adoption. At thirteen, you are a BABY. You can't work, you can't drive, you can't do much of anything. I don't think it is possible to parent at thirteen years old when your parents aren't even finished parenting you.

I know you don't want an abortion, but at least consider an open adoption. You could still get updates and yearly visits with your child AND get to be a kid. Focus on your education.

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I live in Ohio

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XxWhite_RosexX

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posted 11th Dec

Quoting Youngteenmom12:" They know they don't want me to keep it though"

why does your profile say 14?

and if you want to keep the baby how are you going to pau for it?

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I have 1 child & live in United Kingdom

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JessieLeeAnne

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posted 11th Dec

Quoting Youngteenmom12:" They know they don't want me to keep it though"

Then listen to your parents.

They have your best interests at heart.

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I have 1 child & live in South Carolina

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**§emily§**(25 weeks)

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posted 11th Dec

<blockquote><b>Quoting JessieLeeAnne:</b>" I think it is up to your parents, since they will be the ones raising it. "</blockquote>

It is not up to her parents no matter how young...do what you feel is right..I do want to mention it would actually be your parents raising it only because.you wouldn't be able to get a job for 3 years but talk it over with them and stuff and do what you can live with

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I'm due August 29th (a girl), have 2 kids & 1 angel baby & live in Conway, Arkansas

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Puff the Magic Dragon!

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posted 11th Dec

yes, it's possible, yes it's SOO hard.
You WILL struggle, you will have many hard times.

However, this is YOUR choice. Though you are young, this is your body/child.
Don't let anyone force you to do against your wishes.

Remember though, what's best for this baby in the long run.

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I have 15 kids & live in Ontario

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.t a y l o r.

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posted 11th Dec

You should really consider your options and think as much like an adult as you can.

If you keep the baby, what kind of life can you give it? Unfortunately, you don't have the support you need, the father of your child doesn't want to be there, you can't legally get a job to support it by yourself. It would be an incredible struggle for you and your baby.

I know abortion is scary and undesirable at your age, but it may be what is best for the situation.

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I have 3 kids & live in Indiana

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Puff the Magic Dragon!

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posted 11th Dec

Quoting Back to Noob Status:" I can't tell you what to do, but here is what I suggest: I would seriously consideran open adoption. ... [snip!] ... an open adoption. You could still get updates and yearly visits with your child AND get to be a kid. Focus on your education."

Is it possible to parent as a very young teen?

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