Mom advice needed

My 4 year old daughter has hit a stage (or just matured to this point) where she has learned she can be really hateful with the things she says. Included in this which drives me absolutely up the walls is saying "I don't like my brother." She will say this repeatedly whenever he does anything remotely irritating towards her. She will say things like "I don't like you!" and "I'm tired of you!" and just be hateful in general. She says no frequently in response to me now, yells, and storms off. I'm pretty sure she's learned this from school, family and such. I know it's typical and all kids get to a point where they learn they can say things that are hurtful. HOW do I make it stop, though? I don't want to ignore it but I also don't want to feed it. How would you/do you go about quitting this type of behavior?


Also, I have to put this part in.. My kids are use to getting at least something small every time they go to the store (don't ask, I have discussion after discussion with their father and grandparents about this) and they think every time they go to the store they have to have something, what do I do to nip this in the butt? I'm really tired of having this battle with their stupid father and their grandparents because this has developed some bad behavior in my kids and I'm sick of it and it's time for it to change... what's your input on this? When they cry in the store, what do you do?

Ugh, I don't know. My four year old will also tell me he doesn't love me, and he learned the silent treatment. It's most toward my parents, but it's ridiculous.

As for getting something everytime they go to the store...also quite guilty of this. Last time we went to Target, though, he was quite the brat. He usually gets a slushy before we leave there and I told him no and he pouted and I told him next time he can get one if he is a good boy, that it's not an entitlement, but a reward. He got over it pretty quickly.

My niece has been doing that and she just turned 4. When my daughter went over to play, she told her "I don't like you! Leave me alone" a few times and her parents made her go to the time out chair. Hope this helps

Tell her that when she wants to say nice things, then you will speak to her and then ignore it.

She is saying it to get a rise out of you and get attention...don't give it to her.