I am a childfree, happily married woman to a husband with a 4 year old son from a previous relationship. My husband and his ex were together (not married) for 6 years before they split. Him and I have been married for 1, together for 2. Since we've gotten married the baby's mother has expressed to my husband that she doesn't want thier sone at our house. My husband takes no non-sense from his baby's mother(you know how babymommas can be sometimes)so he disregarded her wishes because she had no real reason to say this. When he told me about it, I told him that he should respect her wishes. So he agreed to it. His ex now drops thier son off at his grandmas and my hubby goes over there to watch him or take him out, until his ex pick him up. On nights where he has to spend the night my hubby leaves him with his grandma.
My husband asked me why am I suddenly accomodating to his baby's mother.

This was my explanation to him:

*I am childfree, and you and I have no kids together. Therefore I don't want it to appear as if we do*, i.e toys in my house or car when the boy is not around, the car seat in the car if the boy is not here. AND I don't care to attend any events for the boy or anything of that nature. ( I will if I have to)

My husband was a little shocked to say the least (and pretty pissed). HE KNOWS I DONT WANT CHILDREN & DONT WANT OUR LIVING ENVIRONMENT TO SEEM LIKE WE DO.

So why are you on here and why marry someone who has a child?

Good luck on your marriage

Wow, your an smurf.

why marry him then? he has a kid, so he has responsibilitys, he shouldnt have to keep his child out of BOTH of your house because you dont want it to seem like you have kids.

Wow. How rude. His child comes first and that's how it should be, even over him. Why would you marry him if you knew he had a child?

I think ur the one being inconsiderate.. You married him and all his "baggage" which includes a child.

<blockquote><b>Quoting sταrry skies:</b>" So why are you on here and why marry someone who has a child?"</blockquote>

  This.and why were you asking about baby names...?

You shouldn't have dated someone with a kid, his son comes FIRST, and he shouldn't have to jump through hoops to keep his son in his life.

You married him, you are part of that family now, and his son comes with it.

Quoting Ashley; Kenley's Mommy!:" Wow. How rude. His child comes first and that's how it should be, even over him. Why would you marry him if you knew he had a child?"

For the record, I was actually really pleasant to the boy when he came around considering the feelings I have for not wanting any children.

He has an absurdly jealous and psychotic baby mother that only wants him to spend time with her son alone (or away from me).
All I'm saying is I agree with that for my own reasons that you are already aware of.

Quoting Mrs.Dani:" <blockquote><b>Quoting sταrry skies:</b>" So why are you on here and why ... [snip!] ... you on here and why marry someone who has a child?"</blockquote>   This.and why were you asking about baby names...?"

And the plot thickens!

why are you on BG if you dont want kids and dont want to be the "step" parent?


and no i dont think he is being inconsiderate, I think your being rather selfish.

You don't have kids? Because in your post from December 2nd you talked about how you have a daughter, and the name paisley...

Quoting TromboneMethod:" For the record, I was actually really pleasant to the boy when he came around considering the feelings ... [snip!] ... with her son alone (or away from me). All I'm saying is I agree with that for my own reasons that you are already aware of."

So why the baby name thread for your "daughter"?

Quoting TromboneMethod:" For the record, I was actually really pleasant to the boy when he came around considering the feelings ... [snip!] ... with her son alone (or away from me). All I'm saying is I agree with that for my own reasons that you are already aware of."

You should be more than just pleasant though, you are stepmother now whether you like it or not...