re: Changing visitation because of school, feeling guilty

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jillian Lindsey:</b>" "</blockquote>




I honestly hope so. I over think all these things. I just want her to be happy and healthy, and she really is at her dad's. They are very close and he's grown up a lot and has stepped up and is a good father to her since he has all the time and attention to devote to her, I know its difficult having to share everything over here.

Have you guys asked her what she wants and explained you won't be mad with her decision and youll both always be there?

Quoting SailorJerry:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Jillian Lindsey:</b>" "</blockquote> I honestly hope ... [snip!] ... to her since he has all the time and attention to devote to her, I know its difficult having to share everything over here."

hey your doing whats best and thats all a parent can do im glad hes a good dad and you can trust that he is taking care of her later down the road when she older she may say hey mom i want to live with you you never know  

<blockquote><b>Quoting Naocorn:</b>" Have you guys asked her what she wants and explained you won't be mad with her decision and youll both always be there?"</blockquote>




I havent sat her down with both of us but I have asked her casually and she wants to stay at her dads. Whenever she's here she asks me how many days she is staying and keeps track of them until she goes back. It makes me feel hurt, but she's just closer to her dad, they have that special father daughter bond. She's a huge daddy's girl. I want her to have him there because I grew up without one so I know it's important. I don't.blame her for preferring it there, she has her own room and she's very ocd about her stuff and her toys and clothes and she has no privacy here with my youngest and my in laws.

It is a very difficult decision. I know its not the same but a couple years back my husband (then bf) broke up and it was 50/50 as well. She liked being there more often too, long story short there was a lot of problems where I was living & I hated when she was there to see. We ended up deciding that he have her, I was able to go over there as much and as long as I wanted. My time with her was taking her out places because I didnt want to take her to my house. During this time she became very attached to my in laws.

Fast forward, I got things together DH & I got married etc. but she never wanted to be with me anymore. I wont lie I cried because I felt like a POS that she didn't want to live with me. She didnt say she hated me or acted up, she just didn't want to come home with us. I would get all these looks and remarks from people like "Oh well she's your daughter why is she not with you? ... So your letting your MIL raise her? ... You just want to be out and party so other people are taking care of your responsibilities.. etc"

Bottom line, if I went by emotion I would have kept her with me but I do feel that I made the right decision then for her. You're her mother, other people may have opinions but you know whats best for her. Good luck!

<blockquote><b>Quoting .:Mary:.:</b>" It is a very difficult decision. I know its not the same but a couple years back my husband (then bf) ... [snip!] ... the right decision then for her. You're her mother, other people may have opinions but you know whats best for her. Good luck!"</blockquote>




Thanks a lot. Means a lot.to me. Im gonna text.you later lol

Quoting SailorJerry:" <blockquote><b>Quoting .:Mary:.:</b>" It is a very difficult decision. I know its not ... [snip!] ... you know whats best for her. Good luck!"</blockquote> Thanks a lot. Means a lot.to me. Im gonna text.you later lol"

Oh nice, I didnt see this till now but I still texted you lol.