If you have 50/50 custody..

What is your schedule like? Trying to find one that works for us and is even and fair.

My mom and stepdad have 50/50 of my younger brother and they switch every week and there's a court order that they have to stay in the same school district.

I didn't want to do one week here one week there because she freaks out if she's away from one of us too long..she would be miserable with that, at least until she's older.

My brother is going through divorce and they do
2 2 5 . Like,
My niece is with us
Monday Tuesday,
She's with her mom
Wens Thurs.
She's with us
Fri sat sun mon tues.
And then she goes with her mom
Wens Thurs fri sat sun mon
And comes with us
tues wens
And her
Thurs fri.

Get it? Lol

It sucks, and isn't fair to kids. They never ferrel like they have a home... They visit both places. I've talked to many kids, teens, and now adults who felt that way.

We switch 3 nights a week so the kids don't go long without seeing either patent. We all hate it, except their dad.. Who doesn't care how it effects the kids. I even offered him custody to provide more stability for the kids.. But he refused that too.

We do. She is with me Monday-Wednesday until 6pm, he picks her up at 6pm and keeps her until Friday at 6pm. When it is my weekend (we alternate) I get her at Friday at 6pm until Wednesday at 6pm. Basically Mondays, Tuesdays and Wednesdays are mine, Wednesday night, Thursday amd Friday are his, they call it a 3/5 schedule I guess, it works out evenly because of the days shared. But she is starting school next year so she may end up living with him primarily and Ill take her weekends. There are better schools in his area, he lives in a ritzy area, so we agree that she should attend there.

every other week and every other holiday my brother in law does and it seems to work pretty well

<blockquote><b>Quoting snglemama:</b>" It sucks, and isn't fair to kids. They never ferrel like they have a home... They visit both places. ... [snip!] ... care how it effects the kids. I even offered him custody to provide more stability for the kids.. But he refused that too."</blockquote>




I agree. It sucks balls. We have been doing this since she was a year okd (awful and horrible age to start :/) she is 5 now. Its so hard on them, to live in two households where the rules are different, discipline is different etc. mine has a lot of behavioral issues because of it along with other things. She has a lot of blow ourlts with temper and mood because of the constant shuffling, its horrible. she used to cry everytime we switched because her dad was a total stranger to her in the beginning but now she prefers him because he doesnt discipline her so she gets to do whatever ahe wants there.

We switch every sun, tues, and Thursday evening at seven thirty.. So it's exactly even. But, makes life difficult because i can't plan anything for say.. Every Monday night.. Because he has them every other Monday..

We have 50/50 joint

He gets 3 weekends a month...

1st, 2nd, and 4th weekend

I get 3rd and if theres a 5th weekend I get him...

We have 50/50 joint

He gets 3 weekends a month...

1st, 2nd, and 4th weekend

I get 3rd and if theres a 5th weekend I get him...

Quoting SailorJerry:" We do. She is with me Monday-Wednesday until 6pm, he picks her up at 6pm and keeps her until Friday ... [snip!] ... take her weekends. There are better schools in his area, he lives in a ritzy area, so we agree that she should attend there."

on his weekends when do u get them back sunday night or monday morning? im thinking of suggesting this to my kids donor..

<blockquote><b>Quoting SailorJerry:</b>" We do. She is with me Monday-Wednesday until 6pm, he picks her up at 6pm and keeps her until Friday ... [snip!] ... take her weekends. There are better schools in his area, he lives in a ritzy area, so we agree that she should attend there."</blockquote>




You're an amazing mom for letting him take her if it's better. My ex won't even take them, because it's what i want for them. he refuses to be agreeable to anything, even if it benefits him!

my kids father gets them basically every other weekend