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That's a lot of questions for just being curious, lol. Sorry I can't help though  

<blockquote><b>Quoting Bosco123:</b>" That's a lot of questions for just being curious, lol. Sorry I can't help though  "</blockquote>



Lol after I started I thought of more questions than I planned.. But I know a lot of women on here have gone through this or something similar so I'm curious what the outcome was  

If you live in another state the schedule usually goes the child stays with the primary parent during the school year and the other parent gets breaks like spring and christmas and all of summer. It can be tweaked depending on the situation. Normally the parent that moved originally is responsible for airfare, or if you can work it out maybe do half and half. I dont know about child support but if he's paying he does have visitation rights. keep a record of everything and get a lawyer if you can because otherwise its just he said she said and will get ugly if you go to court because skeletons get dragged out of the closet, nasty accusations will be made against you etc. just my personal court experience for custody. It gets vicious, unless you already have a custody order.

I don't get child support, but my ex is not on bc and has 50/50 legal custody,
Agreement says he gets 3 weekends a month.
I pay my sons medical insurance, but if I wanted to be a bitch I could make him *have* to pay for his insurance.
I pay all his co pays but his father can be responsible for half because he has 50/50 legal, so legally were both equally responsible for him.

DH was on DS's BC.

When him and his ex separated (They were still married), he paid her "child support" every month. He had the statements saying such. She is a greedy little bitch that claimed those checks were just a gift and they demanded he pay back CS in the amount of $9k. (mind you this was like a 7 month period). So yeah. That's possible. But its smurfing shady.

As far as the rest, it varies state to state.

1. If he paid you on the 1st of every month, that's not "gift" money. That's child support. Don't try and screw him over, it will not look good in your favor and you will look money hungry

2. If you have always been primary, you will stay unless you're a drug addict.

3. Him being out of state he will be entitled to every other weekend and summers with alternating holidays generally.

4. Child support is based upon your income and his.

Quoting It's Delivered:" 1. If he paid you on the 1st of every month, that's not "gift" money. That's child support. Don't try ... [snip!] ... to every other weekend and summers with alternating holidays generally. 4. Child support is based upon your income and his. "

Number two is not always true. DS's mom had full custody of him for his first 4 years and we got full custody of him last April. She's not any sort of risk in the parenting world at all.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Michael Westen:</b>" DH was on DS's BC. When him and his ex separated (They were still married), he paid her "child support" ... [snip!] ... was like a 7 month period). So yeah. That's possible. But its smurfing shady. As far as the rest, it varies state to state."</blockquote>




I loathe women like that... I've never asked a dime from my ex... and he's a professional fighter...

<blockquote><b>Quoting SailorJerry:</b>" If you live in another state the schedule usually goes the child stays with the primary parent during ... [snip!] ... made against you etc. just my personal court experience for custody. It gets vicious, unless you already have a custody order."</blockquote>



Well the who moved first is kind of tricky. They both lived in MO. He got a job transfer to IL, he moved her there so he could be a part of his child's life for at least the first year so he paid for everything on top of that. They couldn't get along, she moved back to MO and then we moved to FL. So I don't know how that who'd work
I would think the airfare would come out of the child support or would the parent with custody still get the full CS even though they won't have the child tha month?
They were never in a relationship so there are no hurt feelings, the situation has just been what it is..
Thank you!

Quoting Michael Westen:" Number two is not always true. DS's mom had full custody of him for his first 4 years and we got full custody of him last April. She's not any sort of risk in the parenting world at all."

how? what did you prove to the judge?

Quoting DeanJade&Maksims Momma:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Michael Westen:</b>" DH was on DS's BC. When him and his ex ... [snip!] ... I loathe women like that... I've never asked a dime from my ex... and he's a professional fighter..."

Dude in that first year they were divorced, we paid her almost $20k in "child support".... Mind you we actually physically had him most of the time. We were actually paying "support DH's ex's drinking habit"

<blockquote><b>Quoting DeanJade&Maksims Momma:</b>" I don't get child support, but my ex is not on bc and has 50/50 legal custody, Agreement says he gets ... [snip!] ... pays but his father can be responsible for half because he has 50/50 legal, so legally were both equally responsible for him."</blockquote>


Did you have to prove paternity to establish CD and visitation? I don't understand how custody works without both parents being on the BC..
Thank you for your info!

Quoting It's Delivered:" how? what did you prove to the judge?"

Nothing. We went in and pleaded our case saying we thought we lived in a better area with better schools and we had a house instead of an apartment. He told us that none of that really even mattered. We didn't even really bring up that we had him for most of her "full custody" or money at all.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Michael Westen:</b>" DH was on DS's BC. When him and his ex separated (They were still married), he paid her "child support" ... [snip!] ... was like a 7 month period). So yeah. That's possible. But its smurfing shady. As far as the rest, it varies state to state."</blockquote>




WOW! That is something I could have seen her do if he had taken her to court in the past, but now her and baby daddy number two just split and he doesn't even have a job, I think my husband is in better graces. Or so I would hope. I don't know, he has been so compliant with everything.. He just doesn't want to open a can of worms where things could be worse than they already are.