re: 10 yr old is really beginning to tick me off.

First off people need to quit blaming the child. It is not her fault she has irresponsible parents nor her fault her Uncle spoils her. This is simply how she was raised, and can't be undone magically in one night.

You can't really control her Uncle, but can use him for teachable moments. I would start by trying to teach her to appreciate things, to be grateful. Maybe she can write a thank you letter to her Uncle for all the presents over the years. Maybe get her involved in helping you get presents for others and writing them thank you notes. Be a good example of being grateful, kids a lot of times pick up what we do not say.

Taking away all of her presents, getting mad at her about the presents or getting upset at Uncle so he won't give presents is just punishing the child for something she did not do.

Quoting Clk:" First off people need to quit blaming the child. It is not her fault she has irresponsible parents nor ... [snip!] ... the presents or getting upset at Uncle so he won't give presents is just punishing the child for something she did not do."

I agree with this!