Quoting Just Ames:" Not to mention, I imagine she hasn't had the easiest of life beings her Brother has custody and all. ... [snip!] ... nice for someone else (because everyone should do that during this time of year) but to expect it is a little extreme, IMO."
Right. She's never met her father, hence how we got custody of her. However, she has it pretty good right now, and expecting all of that stuff is just too much. I grew up kind of poor and most of the stuff I got was the simple things like socks, underwear, pajamas. I mean I didn't grow up on the street or having to eat from a food pantry, but my parents didn't have much and neither did myself or my siblings. My SO luckily works construction and makes good money. We got her a brand new beautiful bed when we took over custody, we let her pick out the color to paint her room, got her all Justin Beiber bedding (it's what she wanted), and she decorated exactly how she wanted to. She shares a play room with Natalia, my daughter, but Natalia is only 7 months so she's usually in there with us anyway, not like she's bothering her.
I think what I'm going to do is have her volunteer Xmas day with me at one of the soup kitchens in Boston, let her see the poor kids that go there and hopefully she'll give some of the stuff he gets her away.
Oh and as for asking her uncle if he'd cut back, that won't happen. He gives her everything she wants because he WANTS to do it. We asked last year and he said no. She's the closest thing he has to having a child (he never commits long enough to actually marry a woman and have his own kids) and with that said, he refuses to give in... HE'S THE PROBLEM!!!