re: BG mommas and preggos!! I NEED YOU!

Quoting JessieLeeAnne:" I wished I would of known that I would have painful contractions AFTER I got home, especially when breastfeeding. "

Oh yeah. I thought I was going into labor again.

And, I had no idea that I would have so much formula forced on me. When my DD slept for 12 hours in the hospital one day, they tried to tell me I was going to have to give her formula. No way. Same when she wasn't back up to birth weight by 2 weeks. Or when my mom felt I wasn't producing enough(I was), even though baby was fine. I hear stories of women who were told by their doctors that they had to give formula because they had a c-section, because baby didn't latch right away, that formula was better, that the NICU doesn't let moms breastfeed....it's really sad. If a woman WANTS to formula feed, that's fine. But no one should try to force her to when she doesn't want to.


I also had no idea that I could stand up for myself and what I wanted. I thought that the doctors got to make all MY choices and that I had no say.

Quoting ashleyxdisaster:" Absolutely! I will be trying and succeeding with my next, I don't care what it takes! Also, I wasn't ... [snip!] ... this:   to looking like this:   They deflated SO bad! They used to be perfect and perky and now they look depressed lol"

That's the spirit!

And   to the part about your boobs. I LOVE my nursing boobs, they're a D instead of a B and I'm keeping them. I refuse to give them back  

Quoting Clk:" That shaking was a symptom of being really close to having baby and that you may not be in pain for active ... [snip!] ... how painful it is and I should get epidural. Yes labor was painful, but also beautiful. I had two natural labors, one at home."

I shook SOOO bad after delivery. It scared the hell out of me!

Quoting MommaSav2:" I'm seeing slot of posts about not knowing about cervical checks before labor and not being able to eat ... [snip!] ... in active labor, they are pointless and there is no reason for them. My doctor doesn't do them at all until active labor."

It really just depends on the doctor and hospital policies. When I had our first in hospital I was encourage to drink as much water as I wanted to. Food wise I was limited to soup, and ice pops during labor lol.

With midwife at home I was told to drink or eat whatever I wanted to.

Quoting Clk:" That shaking was a symptom of being really close to having baby and that you may not be in pain for active ... [snip!] ... how painful it is and I should get epidural. Yes labor was painful, but also beautiful. I had two natural labors, one at home."

I was 4cm dilated and they were admitting me for being in active labor, I felt NOTHING and tried to convince them that I wasn't in labor and that I should be able to grab dinner with my friends for my bday! Cause I was admitted on my birthday! They weren't buying it lol

Next time, I'm doing delayed cord clamping(I had no idea that this was possible/healthy. I thought it was life-threatening to leave the cord uncut. No one ever told me about this until after DD was born.)
Placenta encapsulation (I wanted to do it with DD but I didn't because my mom thought it was gross)
NO vaginal exams until I'm in labor.
NO PIT! I was progressing wonderfully, and was given pit for no reason. I was too stoned on nubain to think about it and say no.
Cloth diapering from the start.
aaaand that's all I can think of right now. But there was so much I didn't know I could do/didn't have to do.

Quoting JessieLeeAnne:" I shook SOOO bad after delivery. It scared the hell out of me! "

I did that with our second and midwife kept asking if I was cold lol.

Quoting MommaSav2:" I'm seeing slot of posts about not knowing about cervical checks before labor and not being able to eat ... [snip!] ... in active labor, they are pointless and there is no reason for them. My doctor doesn't do them at all until active labor."

What hospital did you use? I am in MA as well and was at Umass Memorial and they screwed me hardcore.
I was admitted for being in active labor at 4cm (although I didn't feel any pain and was convinced I wasn't in labor) was advised to walk for 2 hours in order to progress, was put on pitocin, had my water broken, pushed for 6 hours and resulted in an unnecessary c-section. (her heart rate was fine, as was mine. She was just sunny side up)

Quoting Clk:" I did that with our second and midwife kept asking if I was cold lol."

I was shaking during/after delivery, so bad I was afraid to hold my baby.

Quoting ashleyxdisaster:" What hospital did you use? I am in MA as well and was at Umass Memorial and they screwed me hardcore. ... [snip!] ... pushed for 6 hours and resulted in an unnecessary c-section. (her heart rate was fine, as was mine. She was just sunny side up)"

  stories like that make me sad. Are you going to try for a VBAC?

Quoting JessieLeeAnne:" I wished I would of known that I would have painful contractions AFTER I got home, especially when breastfeeding. "

Yeah they can be worse with each baby too.I was also never told the nurses would massage uterus after birth, that hurt too.

Quoting Faith1LovesMLP:" Next time, I'm doing delayed cord clamping(I had no idea that this was possible/healthy. I thought it ... [snip!] ... from the start. aaaand that's all I can think of right now. But there was so much I didn't know I could do/didn't have to do."

  

all of the above! except cloth diapering lol. I am going to ecapsulate the Smurf out of my placenta.

Quoting Faith1LovesMLP:"   stories like that make me sad. Are you going to try for a VBAC?"

Absolutely am! I feel SO robbed of my delivery. I didn't feel like a mom for the first 2 years because I didn't deliver my child, she was taken from me. I had a hard time bonding with her in the beginning because of it. It was so awful.

But we are going to TTC in a little less than a year and that baby IS going to be a VBAC baby! (you know, unless anyones health is compromised then of course I will do another c-section haha)

Quoting Clk:" Yeah they can be worse with each baby too.I was also never told the nurses would massage uterus after birth, that hurt too."

I was told that they would massage my uterus, and they never did. I was also told I would have a sitz(sp?) bath and never did.

Quoting CRSx2Mommy:"    all of the above! except cloth diapering lol. I am going to ecapsulate the Smurf out of my placenta. "

Placenta pills really helped me with PPD the second time around. Wish I would of done it with our first.