She won't stop fighting me and I can't take it

It's 9:42 is the god damn morning and all my kid has done is fight me.

She's been in time out twice so far (including right now) and she has lost fun stuff.

I'm going nuts. Literally everything is a fight. Everything is NO


She is 4.5 years old, btw. And I am losing my mind.

Its gotta be the age. My 4 year old has been doing the same thing to M and I. Everything is a fight, everything is "No, I don't want to." "I can't do it."

My brother used to be like that. He actually never got better, but one thing that always worked with my Mom was she'd have him sit down & write a list of all good things he could be doing instead of being naughty. By the time he was done he'd be okay for a little bit.

Quoting Jas ♥:" Its gotta be the age. My 4 year old has been doing the same thing to M and I. Everything is a fight, everything is "No, I don't want to." "I can't do it.""

YES!

And the doing things that she KNOWS she isn't allowed to do (jumping off the couch, coloring on the tv, etc)

My 23 month old is doing the same thing. Everything I say brings the water works. it's got to be the weather.

M 2.5 year old has been exactly this way for the last week or so!!!!!!!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kelly&Coralie:</b>" It's 9:42 is the god damn morning and all my kid has done is fight me. She's been in time out twice ... [snip!] ... I'm going nuts. Literally everything is a fight. Everything is NO She is 4.5 years old, btw. And I am losing my mind."</blockquote>




My 3 yr old is like that most days. The smurf gets old. I feel like we can never do anything or go anywhere fun because it is a battle with everything. Getting dresses,brushing teeth,hair... by the time I have her ready to go I'm ready to say smurf it all and curl up in a ball. It is exhausting.

My DD is 4 and the last week has been terribly beastly too! Everytime I tell her not to do something she has to do it again right after I say it. I feel like all I have done the past few days is yell at her...

Quoting Kelly&Coralie:" YES! And the doing things that she KNOWS she isn't allowed to do (jumping off the couch, coloring on the tv, etc) "

Yup but she does it anyway, right? My daughter has not be listening and has been testing her limits more than usual.  

Sometimes in our house we have to take a deep breath, talk about how we're going to restart the day and have a 5 minute cuddle.

my 5 1/2 year old still acts like that  

Quoting kitermom:" Sometimes in our house we have to take a deep breath, talk about how we're going to restart the day and have a 5 minute cuddle."

We do that too & then I invite the troubled child to come with me & be my shadow basically...so help me with whatever I am doing. I *try* to incorporate the kids into doing things with me all day, whatever it is I am doing. Overall, more interaction generally diffuses whatever is happening. It' snot alwyas practiccal though when you ar edoing soething they can't help you with (like showering - lol)...but even then, I've been known to put them booth in the shower with me if need be.  

Quoting Jas ♥:" Yup but she does it anyway, right? My daughter has not be listening and has been testing her limits more than usual.  "

Yup, she just does it anyway. It's like I'm not even here.

Today, she has lost her TV priveledges (sp) and her iPod. (which hits her hard, trust me.)

The next outburst and she loses her trip to the dollar store after the gym.

I agree it is def the age.. My 4.5 year old (be 5 the 12) he is mouthy and runs away from me like far ahead when we walk places, jumps off couches oh yes i feel your pain thankfully this morning he has been not to bad

Quoting Kelly&Coralie:" Yup, she just does it anyway. It's like I'm not even here. Today, she has lost her TV priveledges ... [snip!] ... and her iPod. (which hits her hard, trust me.) The next outburst and she loses her trip to the dollar store after the gym."

Also yesterday I took my kids tv away for atleast a week after they smashed and entire carton of eggs into their bedroom rug..