This sucks...

My SO works out of town and comes home on the weekends. I miss him alot but im used to it now, and I am trying to just stay busy till the weekend. lately I feel like when he comes home though all we do is bicker. not FIGHT, just little things, i cant do anything right, and he cant do anything right. he gets mad cuz im so tired at the end of the day from being up since before 5am and I pass out when i lay my kids down at like 7. well we didnt have sex at all this weekend, and he blamed it on me. And last night i fell asleep on the girls bed and he said he tried to wake me up and i never would get up, so we didnt even get our typical "night" we get. I worked all weekend too, so i hardly got to see him. I just feel us losing it again.
I think we should go on a date o rsomething but even then we sit there in silence cuz there is nothing to talk about.... i thought being apart would bring us closer and its not. he was cute for like 1 week when i found out i was pregnant and now i feel like everything is starting to suck. im just sotra venting. I cried last night and today thinking that he just doesnt love me anymore and stupid smurf. Im just hormonal I guess. I see other couples that actual show some affection and we are just not like that anymore.

My DH left the day before Halloween, he came home for 4 days for Thanksgiving & left again. He'll be home on the 23rd for Christmas. We get along great while he's here, but when he's gone we bicker over the phone. It sucks. It also doesn't help that I'm here doing everything alone & he's living an easy life where he is. So I def know how you feel! Hopefully things get better for you guys.

Quoting Cheℓs +2 [17wks]:" My DH left the day before Halloween, he came home for 4 days for Thanksgiving & left again. He'll ... [snip!] ... alone & he's living an easy life where he is. So I def know how you feel! Hopefully things get better for you guys."

yup... he cals me at night and is out playiing pool and eating tacos with the guys while im home with all the kids, plus more since i babysit and doing all the daily duties. it can be exhausting. i get jealous. he says he would rather be home, but lately i dont think so. I think he enjoys the break.. its gonna suck when i have a newborn. thank god its during the summer though so im not running 6+ kids around back and fourth to school. i have no idea what it would feel like to be kid free, for more than a few hours.... one day

Quoting ☮ Phuket:" yup... he cals me at night and is out playiing pool and eating tacos with the guys while im home with ... [snip!] ... around back and fourth to school. i have no idea what it would feel like to be kid free, for more than a few hours.... one day"

Pretty much how my DH is. He texted me the other day about eating some freaking 10lb. lobster & going to the casino. I was like awesome, I'm here with horrible morning sickness plus chasing after an almost 2 year old. It got so bad that I had to move in with my parents because I couldn't do it alone anymore!

My husband and I are like this right now too. We don't see each other all week and then on the weekends it feels like if we have to spend more than a couple hours with each other we don't want to be around each other. He can't do anything right and neither can I. I hope it's just that we're both stressed out right now. The new baby will be here in two months and we're not ready, the holidays are making us extremely broke and our son has been really frustrating lately. Hoping it's just a phase and we get through it okay :/

Quoting Cheℓs +2 [17wks]:" Pretty much how my DH is. He texted me the other day about eating some freaking 10lb. lobster & going ... [snip!] ... chasing after an almost 2 year old. It got so bad that I had to move in with my parents because I couldn't do it alone anymore!"

id kill for just 1 kid at this point : ) but what can ya do. Im dealing with it. just cant wait for this stupid job to be finished so he can hopefully come back home.

Quoting Reise's Mommy:" My husband and I are like this right now too. We don't see each other all week and then on the weekends ... [snip!] ... us extremely broke and our son has been really frustrating lately. Hoping it's just a phase and we get through it okay :/"

this is what im hoping as well. we have christmas, plus 2 birthday parties and still ahve to pay our bills and we are tight on the cashflow. I cant wait for tax returns, we are filing ASAP : ) thats my christmas. lol good luck to you guys!

Quoting ☮ Phuket:" id kill for just 1 kid at this point : ) but what can ya do. Im dealing with it. just cant wait for this stupid job to be finished so he can hopefully come back home."

Once the baby is born we'll be moving to where he works. So hopefully I'll have more help from him. It'll just suck because if he doesn't help more I'll be 6 hours & 3 states away from everyone I know.

Quoting Cheℓs +2 [17wks]:" Once the baby is born we'll be moving to where he works. So hopefully I'll have more help from him. It'll ... [snip!] ... more help from him. It'll just suck because if he doesn't help more I'll be 6 hours & 3 states away from everyone I know."

i cant complain cuz mine does help when he is here, with laundry and dishes and cleaninga nd stuff, so its nice, but he is only home on the weekend. i have family here, but everyone works and is busy and I dont ask for any help. luckily i do have friends that keep my kids when I have appointments and stuff so thats nice. but other than that, i always have my little ducklings in tow. it really isnt so bad, i just wish things with SO were better. liike we had more "love and effection" for each other and stuff. even after i was crying last night and he asked me what was wrong and i told him our relationship is sucking and i felt like we were growing apart his response was " well its not my fault"

merp. I guess it means its all mine.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ☮ Phuket:</b>" i cant complain cuz mine does help when he is here, with laundry and dishes and cleaninga nd stuff, ... [snip!] ... and i felt like we were growing apart his response was " well its not my fault" merp. I guess it means its all mine."</blockquote>




That response makes me so mad!!! DH always thinks I'm blaming him when really I don't care at all whose fault it is as long as we work together to fix it. It's ALWAYS a combination of the 2 of us to blame. Tommy and I go through this every time we go through a separation. I think the biggest issue (for us) is he thinks I'm lucky to stay home with kieran while I think he's lucky to be gone doing adult things. He feels like he's sacrificing so much for our family and I don't appreciate it, and really I always feel the same. For us it's like we are both a little bitter and want to feel appreciated for what we do, but we don't take the time to appreciate what the other is doing when we are so busy being jealous of what their time is spent doing. We just had to realize that parenting takes 2 people, doing 2 different jobs. We need both for OUR family to function the way it does. Make sense?

Could you move closer to where he works so he can come home every night?

Quoting ILOVEWINE:" Could you move closer to where he works so he can come home every night?"

its only until this job is done, which is at some government missle facility thing. so once the building is done they wont be going there anymore, its just WAAY behind schedule since some of the dbags he works with thought, taking naps on the clock and taking hour lunches was a good idea for m onths... and now they are way behind and they forced my SO out there to pick up the slack