Quoting kgh41:" I honestly feel like he doesn't have her best interest at heart and they consider her property. I want ... [snip!] ... and auntie says mommy is bad" I want civil relationships. Hate me but be civil and don't say I can't walk her in! I made her!"
The most wonderful thing is... it is 100% against the law to slander and degrade the other parent. That includes Grandmas, sisters, daddy, friends etc... It's a power trip they're all on. They talk him up like he's a great father and you're taking advantage and taking all of his money. It's pretty typical. Moms always wanting to baby their grown ass child. With his priors... hopefully you get a judge who isn't a lets hug it out and love each other type.
My judge was like that, and she made a gigantic mistake awarding my ex sperm donor anything. He gave up his rights 8 months later.
Good luck, it's hard. VERY HARD. I broke down a lot. But you are your daughers only advocate. He sounds like he's only worried about the money. In which they figure out quickly if they get more time with the child they pay less money.