Advice... please!

I am 19, and my boyfriend is 20. We had our son 11-19-12. We live in Oklahoma, with my parents right now. Boyfriend is from New York, and we are planning to move back when he gets his taxes back.
Anyway, living with my parents is BAD, my stepdad makes everything 1000x's worse. He flips out a lot. and my mother lets him.. she wont do anything. They have been married since i was 13 and she has stood up for me once.
We had no choice but to live with them due to us not having any money, my boyfriends job only pays 7.25 an hour, he is trying really hard to find a new job but with him only having a hs diploma its hard.
My parents pay for us to do some things, but they make us feel like smurf because we cant affored to live like them... they are (sometimes) fine about us not being able to pay rent on time. (apartment is 800 a month for everything, they have us pay 330) My mom has bought me clothes because i cant fit into my normal clothes right now (but she has only got me two shirts and some leggings), and she buys clothes for my son (even though he has a ton) But then she'll get mad because i dont have nice things to wear when they go out to certin places..
Since we've had my kid my parents have pretty much took over taking care of him, and dont get me wrong its great from time to time but at times i feel like i cant even hold my own son..
My mom thinks she knows everything about raising kids, since she's had three.
She does stuff that i'm not comfortable with.. and if i say something about it she'll freak out, i feel like i cant do anything because i dont want to get us kicked out.. at this point i dont know what to do..i cry everyday... its killing me to live here.
Someone help me figure this out.. please..

There isn't much you can do until you move out. Can you get a job to help save up more money?

apply for government housing and get out. government has rules to but i wouldnt stand letting someone interfere with my children. even if you do live there

Point of the matter is, he's YOUR SON, not hers. If you don't like it stand up for yourself!
Your mom needs to get out of the mom role with your son because he's not her child. She is grandma, grandmas need to listen to what mom and dad want for the child. That's goes to all aspects of feeding, bathing, discipline, etc..

Stand up for yourself hun, it sounds like it's high time.

Its near impossible to raise a family on 7.25 an hour. Factories pay more and they are entry-level. And maybe you should consider getting a job as well. Wait tables part time or something

Quoting Love = Moco and Bubba:" There isn't much you can do until you move out. Can you get a job to help save up more money?"

i cant get a job yet because my son would have to go to daycare, and all the place's i've looked at (ones that i trust) wont watch him till he is 6 weeks or older, he is only 3 weeks right now.

Quoting Saraea Banks:" i cant get a job yet because my son would have to go to daycare, and all the place's i've looked at (ones that i trust) wont watch him till he is 6 weeks or older, he is only 3 weeks right now."

Get a job working opposite hours ad your bf...that's what my husband and I do.

Quoting K[♥ E&C]:" Point of the matter is, he's YOUR SON, not hers. If you don't like it stand up for yourself! Your mom ... [snip!] ... That's goes to all aspects of feeding, bathing, discipline, etc.. Stand up for yourself hun, it sounds like it's high time."

i try to stand up for myself but she freaks out.. then if i say something back my stepdad gets in on it. i'm scared they will kick us out and we have no other family here..

Quoting BareFootBabyMaker:" Get a job working opposite hours ad your bf...that's what my husband and I do."

i'm going to start looking sooin. i had a c-section, i am just now starting to get back to normal

Quoting Saraea Banks:" i try to stand up for myself but she freaks out.. then if i say something back my stepdad gets in on it. i'm scared they will kick us out and we have no other family here.."

Then perhaps it's time to go back to New york before taxes? It's very hard to stand up to your parents when you're still in the "I have to do as they say" mindset.. which a lot of teenagers are. And it's harder when you have a loud mouth step-parent that your parent cant stand up to either, but it's time to get a back bone. You're not a child anymore, you have your own child and you're his only voice. Or you can bring it up to your mom when your stepdad isn't around and bring it up in a calm manner.

Like if she does something you don't want done, pull her aside after the event and simply say "I would really appreciate if you didn't do that "and explain why, most people meet you with hostility when they misconstrue how you're coming across to them. I'm not saying you're freaking out, but it could just be a few words that trigger things.

Quoting K[♥ E&C]:" Then perhaps it's time to go back to New york before taxes? It's very hard to stand up to your parents ... [snip!] ... how you're coming across to them. I'm not saying you're freaking out, but it could just be a few words that trigger things."

trust me if we had any type of money (enough for gas and food) i would pack our clothes, my sons things and just leave our dressers and other boxes of things and go..

Quoting Saraea Banks:" trust me if we had any type of money (enough for gas and food) i would pack our clothes, my sons things and just leave our dressers and other boxes of things and go.."

Do you have anything to sell? Look for odd jobs that pay some money. Save up and get out. It is not healthy for you guys to live like that. She sounds like she will forever treat you like a child and not listen because she's always done it like that I'm assuming?

Try indeed.com I see postings all the time for one day sitter, organizing etc.. It's easy and brings in extra cash.

Quoting K[♥ E&C]:" Do you have anything to sell? Look for odd jobs that pay some money. Save up and get out. It is not ... [snip!] ... assuming? Try indeed.com I see postings all the time for one day sitter, organizing etc.. It's easy and brings in extra cash."

we have sold everything we can, our tv, couch, old clothes, guns.. ect.
We dont even have our own bed, my parents are letting us use one, a long with a tv. We have two dressers for our clothes and a few boxes of things that have been passed down to us. plus some clothes that my son will grow into.

Quoting Saraea Banks:" we have sold everything we can, our tv, couch, old clothes, guns.. ect. We dont even have our own ... [snip!] ... for our clothes and a few boxes of things that have been passed down to us. plus some clothes that my son will grow into."

Well good news is I guess, it's only a few more months to make it. If she does do things you dont want done, try what I suggested see if it works.

Quoting K[♥ E&C]:" Well good news is I guess, it's only a few more months to make it. If she does do things you dont want done, try what I suggested see if it works."

i'm looking up part-time jobs around us now. Thanks everyone for advice.