Quoting Tarynosaurus Rex:" Nope."
Ok,then let me break something down to you.
You are right to a degree. They don't have much impulse control. HOWEVER, they do have the ability to know right from wrong. If you tell your child 3 times in less than 5 minutes or you have to say their name 5 times before they will look at you, that is an intentional behavior. There are different phases that they go thru. Believe it or not, they do test limits. It is a natural thing for humans. They will push you and push until they know how far and how long they can go. While I do not hit my children, put anything in their mouths (other than the food I prepare them) or abuse them to any degree, there is a time and a place for redirection just as there is for discipline. My twins are 4, they are testing more limits now than they have in the past and I expect it. I also expect that they not have to be told 3 times to clean up their mess. I should tell them once that it is time to put things away and get ready for whatever is going on at that moment and they do it. If they ignore my second request, I walk into the room with a trash bag. It is pretty simple really. While they are in school they don't behave in this manner. The teacher says clean up time and they do it. I say it at home and they ignore it. That is nothing more than them testing their limits with me.
When you have your own children, you will understand the testing phases (just think of yourself and your day to day activities. how many times to you test a limit of sorts in one day?). That actually starts as soon as they are mobile. It is there before but really, how much trouble are they going to get into by not moving?
baby-gaga is a pregnancy and parenting site. there is no question about that. It is not a dating or friend finder site. However, it is a great place to learn about pregnancy, if you were to have issues with TTC it is a great place for support and it is a great place to get education, opinions and learn of experience from other mothers. Feel free and welcome. However, I personally wouldn't tell a mother how to raise her children if you don't understand the phase yourself. I do however agree with the path of child rearing you are headed on. It is level headed. Just remember, children aren't manipulative but, they are curious how far things can go because just like us, we have to know limits and how do you know if you don't push?