Partner & LO

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Is he the father of LO?

I wouldn't be putting up with that crap.......my husband loves taking care of the kids and does his fair share.

yep he is the dad........... he is super stresshead and explosive at the sight of our LO crying

Sometimes if my hubby is just coming off of night shift, hasn't slept in almost two days, has to look after 3 kids and the baby is teething, then ya he'll get snappy and be mad that I had to go out, but he never threatens to leave over it or even yell at me, he just gets a little snarky at me and short with the kids.

From your other post, it seems like you're already unhappy, it sounds like it's time to leave.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Doodlebuggy:</b>" I wouldn't be putting up with that crap.......my husband loves taking care of the kids and does his fair share."</blockquote>

 

My DH does his fair share with the 4-year-old (who is not biologically his) and plans to with this baby as well. I'm breastfeeding so obviously he can't help with that but he's already said he will help with diaper changes and help watch DD during the day so I can nap. He works from home so he's gonna be alone with both of them all day when I go back to work.

Is it his child? If it is he's acting like a child and I'd leave my husband if he acted that way. Why? Cause I didn't make the child alone, if I'm going to do all the work alone I might as well be alone. My husband takes care of our daughter and hasn't really had any big issues. He's never threatened to leave over it either.

He doesn't enjoy when DD is fussy but he gets over it.
He does what I ask and sometimes volunteers to help.

he watched DD last night while I went to the store and picked up dinner, he never complained I was gone about 45 minute and she was fussy.

Sounds like your SO is just one of those people who can't handle a crying baby.  

Quoting Third Time Mommy:" From your other post, it seems like you're already unhappy, it sounds like it's time to leave. "

its not fair i try not fuel the fire as they say i do my best to keep things calm and positive but i feel myself being slowly sucked into sadness cos my feeling are not thought about or that fact im 100 percent looking after our LO. What can i do too make myself happy..... leave yes but the ill be single parent and i was not planning on doing that

Good gravy! And I thought my ex-SO was bad. He sounds like a saint compared to yours. I agree with those who say time to leave. Obviously he isn't that committed....

Quoting pennylove:" its not fair i try not fuel the fire as they say i do my best to keep things calm and positive but i ... [snip!] ... our LO. What can i do too make myself happy..... leave yes but the ill be single parent and i was not planning on doing that"

It sounds like you're doing that already.

Sticking around will only make you more miserable.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Third Time Mommy:</b>" From your other post, it seems like you're already unhappy, it sounds like it's time to leave. "</blockquote>




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With our first DD my now husband would get a little snappy, but we were 17 at the time and we were brand new to the whole parenting thing so things were a little bumpy. We grew up and now have our 2nd DD and things are more stable and we are better off and work well together and we know what to expect and go with it. We get snappy with each other once in a while when it comes to the baby being cranky from teething but we generally just "man-up" about it and just deal with it because her teeth aren't going to cut any faster getting mad at one another. I don't know how old your SO is but it may be some maturity that needs to be addressed. Plus if it's a first baby then it will cause some tension on the relationship no matter how solid it is. If you feel unsafe then you may seek counseling or just leave.