re: Partner & LO

Sounds like he needs to grow the hell up. Its his child too. Smdh

Quoting pennylove:" its not fair i try not fuel the fire as they say i do my best to keep things calm and positive but i ... [snip!] ... our LO. What can i do too make myself happy..... leave yes but the ill be single parent and i was not planning on doing that"

Sometimes it's better to be alone with your child, than in a situation that is unhealthy for them. If mommy is stressed and unhappy, baby will feel that. You don't want your baby growing up feeling and seeing your SO act like that, plus if he is so unhappy watching the baby for such a short period of time, I wouldn't trust him to do it period. All too often you hear about the parent that snapped, you don't want to risk that.

My oldest daughter's father was like that, he never wanted to step up and do anything, even while I worked, he didn't want to be bothered to watch her, so she'd go to my parents. Then one day when I convinced him to watch her because I worked a short shift, I came home to her, screaming, unfed, unchanged, on the couch, with a bloody gash down her back, and him in the back, drinking and playing his Xbox, claiming he didn't know what happened to her, while she, was 20 months at the time, and saying, "Daddy mad, Daddy scratch me." I left that day and have not looked back. He does not see her. It took months for her to stop talking about "Daddy being mad", she would bring it up out of nowhere, and it would break my heart, because I've never found out what really happened. Thankfully, I was strong enough to move on, and my best friend turned out to be the real love of my life and a better father to my daughter than her own father ever was.

Just don't be afraid to leave, don't wait for it to get worse.

My fiance does his fair share with DD (she's 9 weeks old). He does diapers, he will take her so I can get a nap or make dinner, etc. The only thing that stresses him is when she's fussing or crying and he doesn't know what to do to make her stop. I'm her primary caregiver while he's at work, so she is used to me doing everything most of the time...feeding, changing, bath time... So when her routine is broken and Daddy takes care of her, she sometimes has a hard time. But I just let him know that I am confident that he can do it and that she has to learn how to be happy with Daddy taking care of her, too. He got her down for a nap when she was super fussy today and was so proud of himself for figuring out that she wanted to stroke his face in order to soothe herself to sleep.

A man who doesn't want to step up and help take care of a child he assisted in creating is not a man at all. If he can't learn to be a dad and not just a sperm donor, kick his ass to the curb. Your child deserves better than that.