how do i say

Come be a smurfing parent and not just a whenever you want to parent to BD without sounding like a smurfing smurf?

Short story BD moved back in with us last week supposedly to spend more time with our kids. He's only been here a total of maybe 18 hours. Spent the night one night.

Our 3 year old is being an evil little smurf...no seriously...EVIL! Tried to bite me, stab me with one of those straws that go in juice boxes and put up his fists swinging saying fight fight fight...

I can't deal anymore with it all. I have had it up to here *pointing way past my head* with him!

His father needs to come and spend time with him and not just pick and choose when he wants to

Stop caring about sounding like a bitch and be upfront about it. Tell him how your feeling and that you need his help raising your kids.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~*My heart is complete*~:</b>" Stop caring about sounding like a bitch and be upfront about it. Tell him how your feeling and that you need his help raising your kids."</blockquote>




I did...he said he's working so he can find a place and so he can pay his friend to watch his dog....said that I make him want to kill himself and I will just have another death on my head ( my 2 older kids father killed himself) rubbed it in my face that he has a girlfriend yet he asked for head from me the other day....

<blockquote><b>Quoting hi puddin:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ~*My heart is complete*~:</b>" Stop caring about sounding like ... [snip!] ... older kids father killed himself) rubbed it in my face that he has a girlfriend yet he asked for head from me the other day...."</blockquote>



Don't let him make you feel bad. My son's donor was on the phone with me when he was trying to dover dose and honestly if he did kill himself I wouldn't feel bad. Their grown men they know what their actions are going to do to the people around him. He must not care to much for you lo if he would kill himself. I hate men like this. I been in ur shoes and I was so happy when he stopped coming around like a weight was lifted from my sholders.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~*My heart is complete*~:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting hi puddin:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ~*My heart ... [snip!] ... men like this. I been in ur shoes and I was so happy when he stopped coming around like a weight was lifted from my sholders."</blockquote>



If I didn't like him it would be easy to just blow it off

I loved my son's father even when I was walking out the door but think like this, is that the man you would want your son to grow into? I asked myself this and each time it made it a little more easier to move on. Every time I knew I would find a man that I would be proud of my son to look up too. Right now its his papa and I would be very proud if he became that kind of man.

Quoting ~*My heart is complete*~:" I loved my son's father even when I was walking out the door but think like this, is that the man you ... [snip!] ... that I would be proud of my son to look up too. Right now its his papa and I would be very proud if he became that kind of man."

thank you

I'm just so torn right now....no don't want my kids to grow up to be like him or my kids to be with someone like him