11 month old behavior

So my 11 month old has gotten to the stage of grabbing things she shouldn't, laughing and running off. While being changed she arches and screams, tries to roll away or jump off the changing table, or kicks and rolls away laughing thinking it is a game. She also pushes at faces really hard. I used to say no a lot but got some tips here and say don't touch or I say thank you then rake it then I give her something else but she knows what she wants and doesn't want. If she gets frustrated or is done with food or a toy she flails her arms and throws what is in here hands. If she doesn't get what she wants she flails her arms and does this gimme high pitched scream.
I am trying things like be sweet then rub her face or hands after she pushes my face. I'm redirecting her attention and try to talk calmly when she pitches fits. I was given advice on aha parenting. I don't pop or spank.

Is this normal behavior and what are some more tips to prevent bad habits? I was a head banger who used to throw myself off beds or on the floor. O broke my nose and wrist this way.

Any ideas are appreciated. This is my first child. I want to raise a sweet baby without anger/temper issues and I'm.not sure when or how to go about it.

Watching. DD is the same way. But only for me. She is a perfect angel for DH.

My son does ALL of the same times. I'll be watching. I'm trying not to give him everything he wants just cuz he screams for it. It's hard.

<blockquote><b>Quoting GoldenGirls:</b>" Watching. DD is the same way. But only for me. She is a perfect angel for DH."</blockquote>




Mine acts worse for me but does these things for the other sitters and family too. its like she wants everything her way and right now. I was like that. Idk if it is hereditary or just bc she is a baby and that's how she expresses herself or bc I'm doing something wrong like being too loud bc I'm loud  

<blockquote><b>Quoting **Kiddy Kat**:</b>" My son does ALL of the same times. I'll be watching. I'm trying not to give him everything he wants just cuz he screams for it. It's hard."</blockquote>




I try to give her what she can have instead of what she can't but she screams and throws louder fits. I will redirect but she hoes back to it or something else or doing something else 3 minutes later and Omg don't let her be tired!

<blockquote><b>Quoting momma melissa85:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting **Kiddy Kat**:</b>" My son does ALL of the same times. I'll ... [snip!] ... will redirect but she hoes back to it or something else or doing something else 3 minutes later and Omg don't let her be tired!"</blockquote>




DD is horrible when she is tired now. It has been like this for months. Just today, I have been headbutted in the jaw, slapped in the face, bitten numerous times and had a bottle thrown at my head. I am at my wits end. I am with her all the time, and DH does the best he can to help when he is here. But he isn't here a lot. Heaven forbid I take something away from her. Or put her down when she is beating the crap outta me. She screams so loud and high pitched when she doesn't get her way. I do not know what to do.

<blockquote><b>Quoting GoldenGirls:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting momma melissa85:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting **Kiddy ... [snip!] ... she is beating the crap outta me. She screams so loud and high pitched when she doesn't get her way. I do not know what to do."</blockquote>



Thank goodness mine is not that bad but I see it going that way  

They are still babies but they are smart ya know. They do know some stuff. My baby know what she shouldn't touch or do. She knows 10 colors and can do a lot of things on command.

I think she just wants her own way. Some things she gets genuinely frustrated with and I can tell frustration from anger but most she just wants her own way like now!

Ugh maybe we will get more advice lol

<blockquote><b>Quoting momma melissa85:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting GoldenGirls:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting momma melissa85:</b>" ... [snip!] ... and I can tell frustration from anger but most she just wants her own way like now! Ugh maybe we will get more advice lol"</blockquote>


Lol. Hopefully. My Dad said I was the same way. Always getting into things, constantly on the go.

DD knows what "no" means. She picks her own jammies and can choose which fruit or veggie she wants for lunch or dinner. She is a year old, and a really smart kid. My Dad says I just have to learn to outsmart her, instead of getting frustrated with her. It is really hard not to get frustrated, especially when she gets angry and hits me. I have tried telling her we don't hit, to popping her on the butt. Nothing works. Nothing.

But, if I leave her with Daddy or when we were visiting my parents, as soon as I am out of sight she is good as gold. When I walk back into view she starts to cry. She goes from being happy and go lucky playing, to screaming and crying when she sees me. As soon as I pick her up, she stops. Like a switch.

<blockquote><b>Quoting GoldenGirls:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting momma melissa85:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting GoldenGirls:</b>" ... [snip!] ... being happy and go lucky playing, to screaming and crying when she sees me. As soon as I pick her up, she stops. Like a switch."</blockquote>




Yea mine knows what no means too but I stopped using it bc its negative. I now say don't touch or thank you and grab it or move her. I see her actually bringing me stuff now so I guess it is consistency. My lo doesn't hit. Try when she hits to hold her hands and rub them then stroke her face and say be sweet. Or clap and say be sweet, hands are for clapping.

Have you tried teaching her some signs? She needs calmer ways to communicate then screaming and hitting. It won't solve all the problems but it will be a stepping stone for communication.

it's totally normal behaviour, and it will pass even though it seems like it wont and you need the magic cureall for it. Just keep doing what you're doing, reinforce examples of good behaviour when bad ones present, redirect attention (sometimes I step outside for a second with my LO because it totally distracts him like nothing else - just find her 'thing'). At any rate, I promise it WILL pass  

<blockquote><b>Quoting {tamz}:</b>" Have you tried teaching her some signs? She needs calmer ways to communicate then screaming and hitting. It won't solve all the problems but it will be a stepping stone for communication. "</blockquote>



Mine doesn't hit but does push away from kisses or hugs and pushes kinda hard. She know 12 signs   I will try more. I didn't think of that but she only signs milk back though.

Thanks for responding  

<blockquote><b>Quoting A, E & W's mommy:</b>" it's totally normal behaviour, and it will pass even though it seems like it wont and you need the magic ... [snip!] ... with my LO because it totally distracts him like nothing else - just find her 'thing'). At any rate, I promise it WILL pass  "</blockquote>




Thank you. Just making sure I'm.not doing anything wrong or that this behavior is leading to worse behavior

Quoting momma melissa85:" <blockquote><b>Quoting A, E & W's mommy:</b>" it's totally normal behaviour, and it ... [snip!] ... Thank you. Just making sure I'm.not doing anything wrong or that this behavior is leading to worse behavior"

I was always afraid of that too and with my oldest I would always be on him and controlling him and would try spanking or popping and it didn't work it only made him angry and distrustful. After that we didn't use any spanking or popping with my second but still felt the need to alter her behaviour for her instead of just showing consistent positive options and she turned out just fine but with alot of stress and frusteration on my end. With my third we just always reinforced positive options and didn't stress about the behaviour and low and behold he just grew out of it, no fuss, no muss. I just feel bad for my oldest that I learned all my lessons on how to parent poorly on him  

Quoting momma melissa85:" <blockquote><b>Quoting {tamz}:</b>" Have you tried teaching her some signs? She needs ... [snip!] ... She know 12 signs   I will try more. I didn't think of that but she only signs milk back though. Thanks for responding  "

DId I know you were a signing mom? If so I'm sorry my memory is terrible. Try showing her how signing something will get a response. FOr example when DD is in her high char and is all done, I will really encourage her to sign all done so she will see as soon as she signed it I will take her out. Even if she hasn't eaten as much as I want just so she gets the concept. Now she signs all done even for diaper changes, little bugger lol

I'm dealing with most of the same problems right now, but I do think her signing these back is starting to help a bit. Instead of throwing food she will sign all done, then throw food