re: Im a idiot X_X

Quoting Vodka Knockers:" If BD's girlfriend had only insulted me and showed a genuine interest in wanting to meet my child, I ... [snip!] ... I think I'd do it. I'd still be a little irritated, but it seems like she's really trying to show an interest in your kid."

Idk if I would call it interest.....it was like she was pushing it on me. After I said no she continued being friendly and at the end of every sentence she would say so are you gonna let me meet your son? My thing is they been together since march of this year according to him and not once has she asked to meet him but suddenly they are getting married and thats her bday wish.

Quoting Nichole+3girls:" seems a little crazy.. a lot of people smoke pot but are still great parents *shrug*"

I smoke.
Kid gets taken care of, played with, paid for, house is in good shape, etc.
But I also only take a few puffs 2-3 times a day for pain, anxiety and sleep issues.

Quoting Nichole+3girls:" seems a little crazy.. a lot of people smoke pot but are still great parents *shrug*"

Exactly some people can do that. When he gets drunk and high or he can do one or the other he cant control his tempur. Hes never beat me but he has hit me a few times while high. Plus he has not bought his son anything so they asked me that and I said he hasnt bought him anything and CS office said galveston isnt that far from here its not that hard to come see him or ship him something in the mail. I wouldnt put child support on him if he wasnt a good parent, I waited till june to even do child support.

Quoting Ozzie & BamBam:" Idk if I would call it interest.....it was like she was pushing it on me. After I said no she continued ... [snip!] ... year according to him and not once has she asked to meet him but suddenly they are getting married and thats her bday wish."

Well, in my particular situation, I refuse to let BD's girlfriend around LO because of the things she's said about my son. Me and her have argued before, but I only remember a few of them and even then, not well. I tend not to hold grudges unless it comes to that baby lol.
We had visitation February of this year, the first and only. I drove down there (2 hours one way), paid for gas, etc. She threw a tantrum saying she wanted to be there, I tried to explain to her that this was the first time BD was meeting LO and I didn't feel like it was the best time cause he was bad around new people. She then said "Well if I can't be there, neither can (BD)."
That's when I drew the line and said "Yeah, no." You know what's best for your kid, but also try and look at it from her point of view. Her soon to be husband has a child that she's never even met, and is about to become a step mom. It's hard for some people to come to terms with that, ya know?

Quoting Vodka Knockers:" I smoke. Kid gets taken care of, played with, paid for, house is in good shape, etc. But I also only take a few puffs 2-3 times a day for pain, anxiety and sleep issues."

I was pregnant and he smoked, we both worked. he spent 160 on weed per week, I bought all the groceries paid the bills etc alone. Had to hassle him to help and it didnt happen. Then things got worse to the point he would curse me out smoke in the room with me (i would leave) and then suddenly he started pushing me and slapping me. I felt worthless and before you know it he was mentally attacking me but ONLY after he smoked weed. When he was sober he was perfect and loveable. I left him when I was 9 weeks pregnant, it doesnt matter though. The CS office doesnt see what you do they just know its an illegal drug and I didnt tell them he smoked it first he did then they asked why I left him and I told them when they asked. Plus if he isnt in his life regularly before he turns 3 he doesnt get granted the right to take him for a few days or weekends or what not. He has seen his father 3 times and the last time I drove to his house and my son didnt know him and he cried and wouldnt let me go. I had to slowly introduce the before my son finally let him hold him but not for long. He was stuck to me like a magnet the whole time.

Quoting Ozzie & BamBam:" I was pregnant and he smoked, we both worked. he spent 160 on weed per week, I bought all the groceries ... [snip!] ... slowly introduce the before my son finally let him hold him but not for long. He was stuck to me like a magnet the whole time."

o.o $160/week? Smurrrrrf fire lol.
We pay $30 a week for a quarter, and that's with DH smoking recreationally. I don't think I could function if I smoked that much by myself. Kinda defeats the purpose lol.

Quoting Vodka Knockers:" o.o $160/week? Smurrrrrf fire lol. We pay $30 a week for a quarter, and that's with DH smoking recreationally. ... [snip!] ... with DH smoking recreationally. I don't think I could function if I smoked that much by myself. Kinda defeats the purpose lol."

I spend 10 maybe every 3 months lol. I still have the same dime sack from my 22nd bday in april that has not been touched. He told me he still smokes and she doesnt care...maybe thats why but when we visited in march (was suppose to be a week) I took a shower came back to a smoked out room and a sleeping baby. Thats when I knew he wouldnt stay sober long enough to keep his son. His eyes were bloodshot red and he was sitting there just staring at DS.

At the time DS was 7 weeks old so that was heartbreaking.

Quoting Ozzie & BamBam:" I spend 10 maybe every 3 months lol. I still have the same dime sack from my 22nd bday in april that ... [snip!] ... eyes were bloodshot red and he was sitting there just staring at DS. At the time DS was 7 weeks old so that was heartbreaking."

He smoked in the house?! He smoked in the same room as his kid?!
Yeah, I don't blame you there. I'd have been pissed too. We never smoke in the house or around LO, I always go outside on the back porch.

Quoting Vodka Knockers:" He smoked in the house?! He smoked in the same room as his kid?! Yeah, I don't blame you there. I'd have ... [snip!] ... blame you there. I'd have been pissed too. We never smoke in the house or around LO, I always go outside on the back porch."

Yeah and he did it while I was pregnant too.