Quoting bananapancakes:" It's such a hard decision. I'm very opinionated and if something was said I don't know if I could keep my big mouth shut. Ugh."
im also not at all close with my family. so i wouldnt care what they had to say about smurf. if you wanna go then go, it could be your grandmas last christmas. if you feel uncomfortable then just leave. if you really want to patch things up with them id write them both a letter. get it off your chest. its not ur fault if they want to hold all that anger so close to there hearts.