re: am I over reacting?

Quoting LolaMcKitten:" I would be, too. I've been in her shoes, it smurfing sucks. When someone is pregnant with your child ... [snip!] ... damn reasonable, especially considering he lives quite a distance and if she went into labor, he would need to get there. "

whenever we do text, he doesn't even ask how i am doing lol. it's like he doesn't understand what i'm going through.. at all. saying hi once a day isn't a hard task, right? it's just out of respect.

Quoting Marissa- 35 weeks:" whenever we do text, he doesn't even ask how i am doing lol. it's like he doesn't understand what i'm going through.. at all. saying hi once a day isn't a hard task, right? it's just out of respect."

That smurf would bother me a lot. How often do you guys see each other?

Quoting Viv, Ev & Gwen ♥:" I would be too, but being a bitchy smurf isn't going to do anything but piss him off and stall communication. Act like a smurfing adult and explain your position without getting snarky."

you have 4 kids.. and talk like that? i think you're the one who needs to act like an adult lmao.

Quoting Marissa- 35 weeks:" exactly! some people.. lol it's not like i was sending him text after text. i sent him 1 text after 2 days"

if he's literally not responding for two days (as opposed to saying "i'm busy, will talk in a bit") == it's 100% shady
no one is that busy. not even a surgeon.

Quoting £egendary £ex:" so an smurf. lol"

He is an smurf because to be honest sounds to me like he doesn't want to be with the OP at all, if a man does not even want to text you and ask you simple things or even say hello after a few days especially while you are pregnant ...that's all bad

and he doesn't have the balls to tell her he doesn't want to be with her

THAT is what makes him an smurf if anything

I would be upset too.
When DH and I were dating we texted everyday throughout the day and called each other EVERY night to say goodnight. Even if we didn't have time we would text the simple "i love you".

Quoting Bustie:" He is an smurf because to be honest sounds to me like he doesn't want to be with the OP at all, if ... [snip!] ... bad and he doesn't have the balls to tell her he doesn't want to be with her THAT is what makes him an smurf if anything"

I agree. It sounds like he doesn't really want to be there and he's just being a pussy and not saying anything.

Quoting JessieLeeAnne:" Obviously he doesnt like to text either... What is he doing that he is too busy? Sounds like some shady smurf going on.."

 

I think you overreacted just a tad. I know when I'm busy I don't text anyone back, even DH.
But I also don't know how much this happens, so I can't pass too much judgment.

Quoting LolaMcKitten:" That smurf would bother me a lot. How often do you guys see each other?"

i'm living with my mom right now because he's going away for 6 months for military schooling, but he comes here once a weekend or every second weekened for 2 days.

Quoting Marissa- 35 weeks:" whenever we do text, he doesn't even ask how i am doing lol. it's like he doesn't understand what i'm going through.. at all. saying hi once a day isn't a hard task, right? it's just out of respect."

how long have you been w/ him?

Quoting Marissa- 35 weeks:" i'm living with my mom right now because he's going away for 6 months for military schooling, but he comes here once a weekend or every second weekened for 2 days."

Ah, ok - when I was pregnant with my son, my boyfriend lived over an hour away and that basically how often we saw each other, too - but it would piss me the hell off if he just didn't speak to me for 2 days.

Quoting Marissa- 35 weeks:" you have 4 kids.. and talk like that? i think you're the one who needs to act like an adult lmao."

I cuss all the time on here, has nothing to do w/ how I talk IRL

we've been together over a year now.


i cuss too, but i don't call people names. especially 'smurf' i think that's extremely disrespectful and immature.

Quoting Marissa- 35 weeks:" we've been together over a year now. i cuss too, but i don't call people names. especially 'smurf' i think that's extremely disrespectful and immature."

I call people names  

idk this guy seems... off