<blockquote><b>Quoting Vodka Knockers:</b>" Have you tried couples counseling? Definitely not trying to defend him, but 'turning the tables' is a ... [snip!] ... since we've been in marriage counseling, but he also needs therapy himself considering marriage counseling will only go so far."</blockquote>
I've thought about it. I don't say "if this were me...." I just notice how every time we fight that if it has to do wit him - he flips instead of communicating and makes matters worse. But when he is confronting me, I always try to be understanding. It's like we're on different levels of communication. We have a usually good relationship. But when we fight - its really really bad. I'm at the point where I wanna say if we don't get help I'm done. I can't fight like this anymore with him. It's always been like this and there is only so much more I can take of how he gets when he's angry.