re: porn after sex?

I think I'd feel hurt.
I'd sit there and think "Well, did he fake it with me?", or "Am I just not enough to do it for him?", or "Does he not find me attractive?"
But then again, me and DH had a lot of misfires similar a while back. We got to the point we just weren't having sex and he was looking at porn almost daily. I thought he just wasn't digging me anymore, but he thought I wasn't digging him because I wasn't making any advances, nor was he. We were both kind of waiting for the other to make a move lol.
I say talk to him, ask what's up, let him know it's a judgement free zone and you're just curious.

Quoting LolaMcKitten:" That's what would get me, too. There are certain, like....rules? I guess? Bad way of wording it. Like, ... [snip!] ... then go watch it like I wasn't enough, especially when you know I like going again - that kind of thing, it's inconsiderate. "

thats how I feel now. to the T. when I first saw it I thought nothing of it. but after reading all these responses I'm a little "upset." like you said - feeling like I wasn't enough. or that he didn't want me, he wanted to see the girls on the website.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♥ logan's mommy:</b>" I wasn't upset, I was asking how everyone else would feel. I didn't start feeling some way until all ... [snip!] ... girls started posting their responses. and I didn't get everything that I wanted - I coulda been smurfed twice and not once lol"</blockquote>




So you feel a certain way because people tell you too? That's strange.

Why dont you ask him why he didn't ask you for more instead of having the women of bg make you feel a certain way.

Quoting Vodka Knockers:" I think I'd feel hurt. I'd sit there and think "Well, did he fake it with me?", or "Am I just not enough ... [snip!] ... other to make a move lol. I say talk to him, ask what's up, let him know it's a judgement free zone and you're just curious."

I think I might do that. He always overreacts to everything I bring up that he does, well not "wrong" but something that he did that could have been done differently or if I ask him something about an action he did.

and I think the same way - was I not enough? did you not enjoy what we JUST had to go watch porn? and you really couldn't sit upstairs and watch a movie with me, you had to watch porn?

Quoting I'm Marbles:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ♥ logan's mommy:</b>" I wasn't upset, I was asking how ... [snip!] ... strange. Why dont you ask him why he didn't ask you for more instead of having the women of bg make you feel a certain way."

Meh...I have a hard time processing emotions. A lot of times I don't know if it's appropriate to feel the way I do because of certain issues.
I do often use BG as a way to figure out how to go about things, what the appropriate scale of emotion is, etc. I can kind of see it.

How do you know that he masturbated? I ofter watch porn without jacking off. I'm sure I'm not the only one.

<blockquote><b>Quoting shelbylynn [24 WEEKS!]:</b>" I'd be smurfing PISSED and feel embarrassed to be completely honest!"</blockquote>




Why?

Quoting LolaMcKitten:" That's what would get me, too. There are certain, like....rules? I guess? Bad way of wording it. Like, ... [snip!] ... then go watch it like I wasn't enough, especially when you know I like going again - that kind of thing, it's inconsiderate. "

and he KNEW she wasn't sleeping. and he knows she's always up for another round afterwards. Which is why it would personally give me the feeling that I didn't satisfy my SO, hence the reason why I would be upset. That's just me though. People get upset over different reasons!

Quoting I'm Marbles:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ♥ logan's mommy:</b>" I wasn't upset, I was asking how ... [snip!] ... strange. Why dont you ask him why he didn't ask you for more instead of having the women of bg make you feel a certain way."

ok? it made me realize and bring out some feelings that I didn't feel at first. after hearing how they felt, it kinda put my feelings into perspective. I'm not like over the top mad at him or anything to start a fight, I just want to ask him about it.

Quoting Vodka Knockers:" I think I'd feel hurt. I'd sit there and think "Well, did he fake it with me?", or "Am I just not enough ... [snip!] ... other to make a move lol. I say talk to him, ask what's up, let him know it's a judgement free zone and you're just curious."

Hm, kind of hard for a guy to fake when he ejaculates..... or maybe I'm the only one who has a lot to clean up. lol

He could be faking the moaning or whatever, but to actually cum? Not possible.  

... I'm sure you know this though?

Quoting ♥ logan's mommy:" I think I might do that. He always overreacts to everything I bring up that he does, well not "wrong" ... [snip!] ... enjoy what we JUST had to go watch porn? and you really couldn't sit upstairs and watch a movie with me, you had to watch porn?"

Yeah, just make sure he knows that it's judgement free, consequence free, no hard feelings, you're just curious.
That's the only way I could get DH to be honest with me about things. He had to know that there wasn't going to be any negative repercussions, but the truth was important to me and that was kind of my way of encouraging him to be open.

Quoting I'm Marbles:" <blockquote><b>Quoting shelbylynn [24 WEEKS!]:</b>" I'd be smurfing PISSED and feel embarrassed to be completely honest!"</blockquote> Why?"

I've already explained myself in multiple responses. Pissed because he didn't ask me to have sex before he went and watched porn, and embarrassed because I'd feel as though I didn't give him what he needed.

Quoting David1981:" How do you know that he masturbated? I ofter watch porn without jacking off. I'm sure I'm not the only one."

This is true, too. On the rare occasion that I do look at it, I don't always masturbate.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♥ logan's mommy:</b>" think I should say something to him? and if so, what would I even say? "heyI saw your browsing history ... [snip!] ... already opened. I could lie and say I opened it to look for a website I was on last night. But when I'm mad I suck at lying. "</blockquote>




Why lie and make smurf worse? That is stupid tell him the truth.

Quoting David1981:" How do you know that he masturbated? I ofter watch porn without jacking off. I'm sure I'm not the only one."

I like to watch it and laugh, personally. It's amusing to me.