I'm curious who makes more money in your family... Do you or does your SO? If it's you, how is the relationship dynamics? How do you budget?

SO and I met in law school and we both graduate in a few months. I am off to a private law firm, and he is working as a public defender. I will be making a six-figure salary and he will be make about 1/3rd of my salary.

I'm trying to figure out how to split rent, childcare expenses, and the like... should we split them 1/2 or 1/3?

I never imagined making more money than my partner. I'm pretty much a spoiled by my parents so I figured my SO would continue with the theme but now if we do vacations or buy a house, I know the majority of the money would come from me which makes me sad (so petty, I know). I'm also curious as to how people feel about being/the woman being the breadwinner?

Right now I make more, but once DH earns his degree in electrical engineering, he will make a lot more. We split the cost of everything. We don't have a joint account yet.

I am a way better provider. And honestly he can just deal with it, just like I would have to if he were the better provider.   it feels nice to take care of my family.

I saw a thread on how to make your SO feel better if you make more money. And I was astounded, do you think they would ever sit around trying to make us feel better for earning less? So I go with the "deal with it" approach.

I make the money, even though I dont make much lol
Sometimes it's stressful because we don't have much money for extra things & that stinks, but it doesn't bother me that I make the money for our family. My SO is graduating in 2013 with an Engineering degree so hopefully he will be the breadwinner soon!

I will say I am the breadwinner because I make more and work more hours since he is also a full time student. We all just pay what needs to be paid. There is no "my money and his money" in our house, no splitting of bills....we just put it together and pay what needs to be paid and buy what needs to be bought.

SO makes more than me. He pays our base bills like mortgage, electric, cable, cells, cars and insurance.
I pay food and my clothes, nails, tanning and save.
Child support covers DD daycare.

We have joint savings and a joint cc. We don't do joint accounts, but we have access to each others accounts.

Right now, I am the breadwinner. DH attends school and takes care of DS!

Quoting Felicia ッ:" I make the money, even though I dont make much lol Sometimes it's stressful because we don't have much ... [snip!] ... the money for our family. My SO is graduating in 2013 with an Engineering degree so hopefully he will be the breadwinner soon!"

Oh yeah there is no my money, his money thing. We help each other.. He does pay rent with his scholarship money & I typically pay for the rest since I work but if he does get an odd job & work its still our money not just his

He makes more but it doesn't matter. The money all comes from the same account and what is mine is his and vice versa.

My so works,while i take care of our son and the house. I like it this way.

<blockquote><b>Quoting LolaMcKitten:</b>" I will say I am the breadwinner because I make more and work more hours since he is also a full time ... [snip!] ... in our house, no splitting of bills....we just put it together and pay what needs to be paid and buy what needs to be bought. "</blockquote>




Same

I make a slight amount more than SO ... we both work the same job for the same company but I work penalty shifts and have the opportunity to work more overtime.

Right now DH is the breadwinner while I go to school and take care of the kids. Once I have get into my career I'll be the breadwinner!

Does it matter if SO is not your DH? My hesitation for combing accounts is... what happens if you just leaves? He could clear out my $ too. Perhaps we should have an account where we match each others dollars? I dont know. I think I would feel different if we were engaged or married.