Quoting whoknowsx:" Does it matter if SO is not your DH? My hesitation for combing accounts is... what happens if you just ... [snip!] ... have an account where we match each others dollars? I dont know. I think I would feel different if we were engaged or married."

Personally, if I were in a position where we both had decent salaries, I would have it so there was one joint account, agree on a certain amount each would put in, for bills AND for spending on both sides, things like eating out, buying stuff for the kids, that kind of thing.

Then each have a seperate savings accounts that you can dump the rest into. If it were me, personally, I would let him have access to my savings and vice versa, but it would be in MY name for long term financial security just in case, KWIM?

Dh is the breadwinner. Right now i stay at home and take care of ds and the house. After the new year i will be getting a job though. Hell still be the breadwinner though.

I make a significant amount more then my husband (still not sure on what all abbreviations mean) and we have one joint account and both our checks are direct deposited. I think this probably saves lots of fights, arguments and all around unpleasentness by doing so. We take care of all of our bills and needs and then I try to put some in savings every month (getting ready for baby has put that to a hault at the moment) after that is done what is left over is just kinda free spend. Not a ton is less but we buy no means miss out on basically anything we really want. I handle all our bills etc. I like it that way. I will say if we were not married though I may feel a little different but I don't really know so I can't give a truly honest opinion. (we did not live together before we got married)

DH earns more than me. He works fulltime and I work part time. We don't really split anything though as all of our accounts are joint. There isn't really a my money and your money everything is ours and that's the way it has always been. I can understand why you wouldn't be comfortable doing something like that as you 2 aren't Married and there are no children involved but I would say if you are going to half the bills then you would need to live by what he could afford if you know what I mean. Expect to live somewhere that he can comfortably afford to pay half, buy furniture he can comfortably afford to pay half for, go on Holidays he can afford to pay half, etc.

So makes a lot more than I do because at the moment I work part time, if I were to work full time and have to pay for full time child care it wouldn't be worth it.


He pays the rent and most of the bills, my money goes to groceries and gas for both of us...
Although most of the bills also include his student loans, I have no loans... his new car payment... I bought a used car and paid in full before we met, so I don't have that either.

He works more than me and gets paid more.I work part time.

We have been married for 4 years and still don't have joint accounts, and probably never will. I take care of all the bills and shopping so every payday he just gives me half of his paycheck to help with things. That half is more than half the bills so it also contributes to diapers/food/etc. Its worked out great for years and the half he keeps I never ask about. Oh and with vacations and date nights etc, the person that plans it pays for airfare, hotel, rental car, and reservations (all the in advance stuff) and the other one pays for the extras and we each bring spending money...its worked perfect for years.

I am very much the bread winner! SO loves it. He brags to his friends that I make good money and can pay out bills. We have separate accounts, but his check is direct deposited in to my checking because it is easier. I pay pretty much all the bills, he pays food/gas/fun money

My husband works, I take care of the kids. We are at that point where I can stay home and be a stay at home mother, but as soon as DH gets out of the military, and we relocate to a new town, I will get a job to help out.

Quoting whoknowsx:" Does it matter if SO is not your DH? My hesitation for combing accounts is... what happens if you just ... [snip!] ... have an account where we match each others dollars? I dont know. I think I would feel different if we were engaged or married."

So would I.

I would split everything 50/50 and have an account for rent/childcare/ etc. Anything beyond that I would keep to myself. I would be wary of raising his financial bar and having to pay palimony or something if it didn't work out

We don't have my money, his money. We pool our resources and get bills paid and things bought.

We both are. We contribute equally for pretty much everything. We make roughly the same thing.