Sexy Baby

I didn't watch the whole thing, but what I did watch was.....eye opening. There is a special on Showtime called Sexy Baby. Wow. I have a 5 year old daughter. I hope like heck that she doesn't become as jaded as the 12 year old girls in that show. There were two other segments interwoven into the show, but they kept coming back to the two 12 year old girls and their oversexualization at a young age. Man. I'm afraid that no matter how good a job that I do as a parent that she could STILL end up like that. That is only 7 years from now. I remember holding here in one hand when she was born. I know your kids grow up, but......crap.

Isn't that smurf sad? Ugh. Makes my tummy hurt. DD is only 10 weeks old and I know that's forever and ever away but still. It seems like they get younger and younger and are more mature at such young ages. My mom's friend is a pediatric obgyn (because there are so many teen pregnancies she specialized) and she had a 12 year old patient who decided to have sex with her guy friend cause they were bored.

She ended up pregnant and they were freaking cause her little body isn't equiped to handle a birth, ya know? All we can do is raise them right and teach them how important self respect is. Don't worry though. I'm sure that won't be her.  

Quoting KyliesMommy2012:" Isn't that smurf sad? Ugh. Makes my tummy hurt. DD is only 10 weeks old and I know that's forever and ... [snip!] ... we can do is raise them right and teach them how important self respect is. Don't worry though. I'm sure that won't be her.  "

Yes it is sad. The one 12 year old made the comment that she just wanted to go up to this guy she liked and put her tongue down his throat and hook up with him. I know that they were exposed to sex and whatnot, but I'm not entirely sure that she was equating hooking up with sex. She might have just meant kissing. Then again, if you saw the show you'd think that she meant sex. I PRAY that my daughter is smarter than that. I hope that she doesn't want to rebel against her parents and bang every guy she sees. That would break my heart.

I was super rebelious when I was younger. I didn't go out and bang guys, but I acted out for sure. My dad always gave my siblings more attention than he gave to me. So I kinda felt like I needed boys to pay attention to me. The only thing I can say is to make sure she's loved (which i'm totally sure she is because you sound like a great mommy. You are so worried and she's still so so little.)

And teach her right. That's all we can do. The main reason I rebelled was because that's how I got the attention I was lacking from my parents. And they were super strict so I felt like I had to be sneaky and hide stuff. Just be open and honest and all that. It will be ok  

I have a baby boy, but I still think about this type of thing often. I think it helps knowing that all children are people deserving of respect and as long as we treat them respectfully and show them what love actually resembles they will know how to love and respect themselves and others. And trust! i think trusting your gut and your kid is important too. I know what you mean though OP how scary it is that no matter how well you parent or how good your intentions are, your child could still reach puberty and go berserk! Let me tell you my experience as a child with my parents so you'll know one more thing that doesn't work... My parents were extremely strict, mom was a teacher and she demanded all a's and b's. If I got bad grades because I was struggling with how to do something I would be grounded and not only that but my self esteem would plummet. My parents enrolled me in advanced high school classes and I simply could not keep up. I truly believe that the repetitive bad grades and getting punished for them along with parents telling me I wasn't trying hard enough led me to a very dark place for a young girl. Then all it took was a few teens to come along and introduce drugs and alcohol and I was off. I became very promiscuous too. I know that I will never pressure my son or punish him for bad grades, if anything I will just keep open lines of communication and support him and help him succeed in the way he wants to. Dunno if this helps but I always like hearing other people's experiences of what happened in their childhood.

Quoting ItsEasyIfYouTry:" I have a baby boy, but I still think about this type of thing often. I think it helps knowing that all ... [snip!] ... way he wants to. Dunno if this helps but I always like hearing other people's experiences of what happened in their childhood."

I think that it depends on the individual of course. Some people react differently to things than others. I don't believe that any one thing can trigger a type of behavior. I believe in a combination of nature and nurture. I don't believe that either thing determines your fate.

Quoting KyliesMommy2012:" I was super rebelious when I was younger. I didn't go out and bang guys, but I acted out for sure. My ... [snip!] ... they were super strict so I felt like I had to be sneaky and hide stuff. Just be open and honest and all that. It will be ok  "

I worry about all three of my kids, but especially her. She's been a great little girl, but her mother hasn't displayed the best behavior. I'm worried that she'll follow her path.