What would you say

If your 9 year old family member says he should have been born a girl, he says that he told his dad and his dad told him that it's not okay and he is a boy.

tough one. I would probably ask him why he felt that way and then maybe try and talk to his parents about it. be supportive

Quoting ☮[The Mrs.].™:" If your 9 year old family member says he should have been born a girl, he says that he told his dad and his dad told him that it's not okay and he is a boy."

I was watching a show about a boy like that. He eventually underwent surgery to become a girl because he was just convinced he was a girl. He lived his life perfectly happy after that.

I would pretty much tell him that I think it is okay and that a lot of other people feel the same way.

I am a firm believer that it is important to listen to your child about these types of things. I would start with a counselor because I know I personally would be overwhelmed with it but I would never tell my child their feelings are wrong. That causes too much hurt and pain and possibly making my child injure themselves becaues of it.

not sure...

I would talk to my child about it. I would ask them why they feel that way, and most importantly, I would be supportive. At the end of the day, he is still my child regardless of which gender he feels he is/should have been.

It threw me off, because he JUST went back to living with his parents but he is getting dropped off with people and history is basically replaying itself. My parents are in a custody battle for him.

The problem is that most of the people in my family think that homosexuality is wrong.

Quoting ☮[The Mrs.].™:" It threw me off, because he JUST went back to living with his parents but he is getting dropped off with ... [snip!] ... are in a custody battle for him. The problem is that most of the people in my family think that homosexuality is wrong."

  That is so sad.

Quoting Sock Lady:"   That is so sad. "

Very. I'm afraid that regardless of if he is with his parents or mine he will not be supported. The way that he came to me about it and the way he said it and the look in his eyes it was like he is afraid, and that makes me sad.

Quoting ☮[The Mrs.].™:" It threw me off, because he JUST went back to living with his parents but he is getting dropped off with ... [snip!] ... are in a custody battle for him. The problem is that most of the people in my family think that homosexuality is wrong."

Just because this little boy feels that he should have been born a girl, doesn't mean he is gay either. I know someone who identifies himself as a female, but is still attracted to females and has relationships with them. He has no interest in other men.

Quoting ☮[The Mrs.].™:" It threw me off, because he JUST went back to living with his parents but he is getting dropped off with ... [snip!] ... are in a custody battle for him. The problem is that most of the people in my family think that homosexuality is wrong."

Well if he feels like he was born in the wrong body he's not gay. But I get what you're saying. Anyways, if they're intolerant I'd definitely support the child and reassure him that other people feel the same way and that he's not alone.

Quoting ☮[The Mrs.].™:" Very. I'm afraid that regardless of if he is with his parents or mine he will not be supported. The ... [snip!] ... that he came to me about it and the way he said it and the look in his eyes it was like he is afraid, and that makes me sad. "

That is heartbreaking! Poor guy!   I don't even know him, and it makes me sad, so I can only imagine how you feel.  

Quoting Sock Lady:" Just because this little boy feels that he should have been born a girl, doesn't mean he is gay either. ... [snip!] ... himself as a female, but is still attracted to females and has relationships with them. He has no interest in other men."

Hm, I never thought of it that way. But I can see what you mean. I never met a gay person until I was in high school. Maybe I was oblivious to it or something.

I know it's going to be hard because I went with my family to a football game and there was a cross dresser behind us and we left.

Quoting Δ ☮ ∂:" Well if he feels like he was born in the wrong body he's not gay. But I get what you're saying. Anyways, ... [snip!] ... intolerant I'd definitely support the child and reassure him that other people feel the same way and that he's not alone."

    

Having someone who is supportive can make a big difference in his life.